Red flag or self sabotage?

16/11/2025 21 min
Red flag or self sabotage?

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Episode Synopsis

In this episode Red Flag or Self-Sabotage?, we unpack our generation’s obsession with hunting for “red flags” and cutting people off at the slightest inconvenience all in the name of “protecting our peace.” But is it actually boundary-setting, or just fear dressed up as self-care? We explore how hyper-independence, avoidance, and past hurt can make us sabotage connections before they start. Most importantly, we talk about shifting our focus from constant red-flag scanning to appreciating the “greens”: the good signs, healthy behaviours, and genuinely kind moments we often overlook. This ep is all about giving grace to others and therefore ourselves x We hope you love it :)