From Personal Power to Relational Empowerment with Sharon Costanzo | Life Engineering EP 48

08/01/2025 37 min

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Episode Synopsis

In this episode of the Life Engineering Podcast, Gabriela and Sharon Costanzo explore the intricate dynamics of relationships through an engineering lens. Sharon shares her journey from a mechanical engineering career to becoming a relationship coach, emphasizing the importance of personal and relational empowerment. The conversation delves into the shift from a push-based approach to a pull-based approach in relationships, highlighting the significance of desire, open communication, and mutual respect. They discuss the challenges of role-based marriages versus partnership marriages and the necessity of third-party support when one partner is disengaged.
Sharon shares with the audience two powerful questions to ask your partner in order to shift from personal empowerment to relational empowerment:
1. What can I do for you to help you show up for me?
2. What do I do that makes it hard for you to show up for me?
Tune in to learn how you can elevate your relationship by shifting from personal power to relational empowerment.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Relationships from an Engineering Perspective
03:06 Sharon's Journey from Engineering to Coaching
06:04 The Shift from Push to Pull in Relationships
09:11 Desire and Personal Empowerment
11:59 Understanding Partnership vs. Role-Based Marriages
15:14 Relational Empowerment: Teaching Partners How to Love
18:01 The Importance of Open Communication
20:55 Navigating Feedback and Growth in Relationships
24:01 When One Partner is Disengaged
27:06 The Role of Third-Party Support in Relationships
29:57 Creating Unity Through Language and Perspective
33:14 Final Thoughts on Empowerment in Relationships

About Sharon Costanzo:
Sharon is passionate about helping couples create relationships built on partnership, intimacy, and mutual respect. As a relationship coach and host of the Respected & Connected podcast, she has spent the last 5 years empowering couples to overcome challenges and build a love that truly thrives. Sharon's unique background combines her experience as an engineer, project manager, and corporate trainer with her deep understanding of relationship dynamics. Her work leading teams and coordinating complex projects has honed her skills in helping people with different backgrounds and perspectives achieve shared goals and work together effectively – skills she now applies to helping couples navigate the ups and downs of intimate relationships. Sharon's training with Terry Real and the Gottman Institute, combined with her own 12-year marriage to Mario, has given her invaluable insights into what makes relationships thrive. She's known for her practical and optimistic approach to challenging relationships. Her clients appreciate her ability to help them see their part in their struggles and find the motivation to choose a more constructive and empowering approach.

Learn about Sharon’s work at: https://www.respectedandconnected.com/links
Sharon’s podcast: https://www.respectedandconnected.com/podcast


Gabriela Embon – Speaker – Author – Marriage Educator & Coach
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