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Episode Synopsis
Co-parenting: How To Build a Healthy Relationship with Your Ex
What You Will Learn:
Four main parenting styles
Ideal Co-Parenting
Three main co-parenting models
Co-Parenting with a Narcissist
5 Toxic Situations in Co-Parenting: Dealing with the Tough Stuff
What to Look for in a Co-Parenting App
Co-parenting is hard work. From my experience, friends co-parenting is one of the most challenging life experiences for everyone involved, from you to your children to your family and ex-family.
I have listened to a friend as they anguished between asking their partner to leave or putting up with the behaviour from addictions.
I was there to emotionally support them the day their ex moved out. Would there be a backlash? If so, what kind of backlash? What do they tell the kids who are just starting school? Now what? How do we parent our children in a healthy manner?
I have listened as another friend expressed their anger and frustrations at their ex, who didn’t stick to the schedule, who didn’t financially support their children and left it all up to the one spouse.
Understanding parenting styles will help you to know how your parents parented you.
4 Main Parenting Styles
Authoritarian: This is the strict parent who lays down the law and expects obedience. The authoritarian style is the parenting style that causes POWER STRUGGLES.
Permissive: This parent is more laid-back and flexible, letting the kids have a say. It's like being the cool aunt or uncle who always lets you stay up past bedtime.
Uninvolved: This is when a parent is checked out and not involved in their kids' lives. It's like having a ghost parent who's there but not really.
Authoritative: This is the balanced approach, where there are rules, but there's room for discussion and understanding.
Like my family members, as hard as they tried and deliberated whether to split or to stay, they made the difficult decision to separate. Now what? How are the two of you going to co-parent your children?
Ideal Co-Parenting:
Co-parenting is all about teamwork, even when the team isn't on the same page. It's when separated or divorced parents come together to raise their children, working together to decide their kids' upbringing, education, health, and overall well-being.
Ideal co-parenting means putting aside personal differences and focusing on what's best for the children, creating a supportive and stable environment for them to thrive despite the changes in family structure. I don’t know of any separated parents who co-parent this way because, usually, the relationship between parents is toxic.
3 Main Co-parenting Models
Let's talk about the three main co-parenting models. Think of them as different paths you can take on this co-parenting journey:
Parallel Parenting:
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