Welcome to the December IME Parent Coaching Coffee Talk where I coach parents on all the happenings in IME Community. This is jam-packed with helpful goodness. I just know, since I’m a mom of three amazing humans, that we have good intentions as parents. The problem is, even though we have good intentions, it doesn’t always translate to showing up as a loving and supportive parent. So, what gets in the way? Why do we show up as emotionally reactive instead of with compassion for our teen? First, hand over heart and with lots of grace and compassion for ourselves as parents, we live in a society and culture that puts a lot of pressure on us as parents. TBH (to be honest, in case you’re not as cool as I am), we go about parenting with a lot of fear and lack. It’s really unfun or what I call a “nufnu” (unfun backwards). From a place of fear and lack, we get into our teen’s lane and try to fix and solve. It’s called over-functioning and I’m the absolute Queen of it. Ugh! It’s seriously embarrassing. I know what you’re thinking, “If I don’t get in my teen’s lane and stay on top of it, he/she/they will do nothing, and will stay on their screen all day.” Believe me, I get it. I’m not talking about having standards and expectations for your teen and supporting with boundaries and consequences. It’s just when we are trying to catch our teen and come from a judging and shaming place, we just continue the pattern that builds more friction, we feel crappy, and our teens never get the opportunity to create self-trust which is what allows them to create their big magic life. I’m seeing a trend in our teens, the ones I coach, on social media and my own, and that is that the same fear and lack is spilling over into their lives. Can you start to recognize when you are coming from a place of fear and lack and have an urge to fix and solve your teen? Next, create a pause and then, what if you show up with self-love superpower for yourself as a parent? Put your self-love superpower oxygen mask on first. Your teen doesn’t need you to put their oxygen mask on for them, like when they were little. Believe me, they need you to show them by putting it on yourself first. Then, your teen will start to show up with self-love superpower and create the results of their dreams! Check out imecommunity.com and Join IME Community, if you’re a teen, 12 to 18, or parent of a teen to get my awesome coaching! Self-love superpower, Dr. Karla, ActivistMDSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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