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Listen "The Beautiful Chaos: Navigating Life with Multiple Children"
Episode Synopsis
Hi love. If you’ve ever wondered why adding a second child feels so much harder than people say, this episode is for you. Today we’re talking about the beautiful, messy, overwhelming, and deeply transformative journey of going from one child to two.
So many moms are told that the hardest transition is from zero to one, but the truth is that having a second baby brings an entirely new identity shift. It’s not just about diapers, sleep schedules, or adding another car seat. It’s about grieving the exclusive relationship you had with your first child while simultaneously falling in love with your second. It’s about managing toddler regressions, sibling transitions, and that guilt seesaw where you feel like you’re never enough for anyone, including yourself.
In this episode, I share my own story of navigating sleep regressions, divide and conquer parenting, and the surprising grief that came with mothering two. You’ll also hear about a client who put words to what so many of us feel: “I love them both so much it hurts, but I feel like I’m failing everyone.”
Together, we’ll explore what really happens in your nervous system when you’re juggling multiple children, why hypervigilance and overwhelm are such common maternal mental health experiences, and the truth that your children don’t need a perfect mom — they need a real one.
You’ll walk away with practical tools and compassionate mindset shifts for:
Supporting your toddler’s adjustment after a new baby
Understanding regression as a normal response, not a failure
Practicing connection within limits so you don’t burn out
Finding your “good enough” moments in motherhood
Building small rituals that create safety and joy for each child
Lowering standards strategically so you can breathe again
Remembering that love doesn’t divide, it multiplies
Whether you’re in the thick of newborn life with a toddler at your feet, or reflecting on what this season taught you, I want you to know this: you are not failing. You are adapting. And adaptation is messy, holy work.
Listen in for honesty, encouragement, and permission to be human in the midst of the chaos.
💛 If this episode resonated with you, share it with another mama who might need the reminder that she is not alone.
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So many moms are told that the hardest transition is from zero to one, but the truth is that having a second baby brings an entirely new identity shift. It’s not just about diapers, sleep schedules, or adding another car seat. It’s about grieving the exclusive relationship you had with your first child while simultaneously falling in love with your second. It’s about managing toddler regressions, sibling transitions, and that guilt seesaw where you feel like you’re never enough for anyone, including yourself.
In this episode, I share my own story of navigating sleep regressions, divide and conquer parenting, and the surprising grief that came with mothering two. You’ll also hear about a client who put words to what so many of us feel: “I love them both so much it hurts, but I feel like I’m failing everyone.”
Together, we’ll explore what really happens in your nervous system when you’re juggling multiple children, why hypervigilance and overwhelm are such common maternal mental health experiences, and the truth that your children don’t need a perfect mom — they need a real one.
You’ll walk away with practical tools and compassionate mindset shifts for:
Supporting your toddler’s adjustment after a new baby
Understanding regression as a normal response, not a failure
Practicing connection within limits so you don’t burn out
Finding your “good enough” moments in motherhood
Building small rituals that create safety and joy for each child
Lowering standards strategically so you can breathe again
Remembering that love doesn’t divide, it multiplies
Whether you’re in the thick of newborn life with a toddler at your feet, or reflecting on what this season taught you, I want you to know this: you are not failing. You are adapting. And adaptation is messy, holy work.
Listen in for honesty, encouragement, and permission to be human in the midst of the chaos.
💛 If this episode resonated with you, share it with another mama who might need the reminder that she is not alone.
Transcript for this episode
Blog Post for this episode
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