201: I’m Not Controlling, I’m Just… Right (Right?) (Lexy Solo Episode)

05/07/2025 24 min

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In this powerful solo episode of Heart Snuggles, love embodiment coach Lexy Davis explores one of the most common blocks to healthy relationships: control. Specifically, Lexy dives into how control often shows up in romantic dynamics - especially between women and their partners and why it erodes intimacy, trust, and respect over time.With deep compassion and relatable insights, Lexy shares how many women unknowingly operate from survival-based patterns, using control as a subconscious way to create safety in uncertain emotional environments. Whether it's the urge to correct your partner, take over tasks, or constantly micromanage - these habits often stem from fear, not love.You’ll learn:✨Why controlling behavior destroys attraction and creates a mother-son dynamic✨How to shift from control to trust using real-life tools and embodiment practices✨The power of a "no control date" and how it can transform your relationship dynamic✨Phrases that help communicate trust and respect, not criticism✨The role of nervous system regulation in creating secure, loving connection✨A healing prayer for surrendering control and embracing emotional intimacyLexy offers gentle but firm guidance for those ready to release control, take ownership of their emotions, and experience a deeper form of love. If you're a devoted woman craving a relationship that feels like home, this episode will inspire you to trade control for connection and create space for your partner to show up fully.🎧 Tune in, reflect deeply, and share this episode with someone on the journey of conscious love.Golden Nuggets From This Episode:✨Control in Relationships: A Sign of Fear or a Lack of Trust? Control is often a body-based response to unpredictability, not a lack of love. Real intimacy begins when we let go of control and choose trust.✨Do You Want a Man You Can Control or a Man You Can Trust? True partnership thrives on trust, not micromanagement. Respect his role, and you’ll see him rise in presence and purpose.✨Respect Over Control: The Secret to Inspiring Your Man - The most life-giving gift you can give a man is respect. When you stop managing, he becomes more decisive and engaged.✨Micromanagement = "I Don’t Trust You" – Every time you fix, correct, or control, he hears a message of doubt. Trust unlocks his mission and masculinity.✨Let Go to Let Him Lead – The moment you loosen the grip of control, you’ll meet a stronger, more grounded version of your man.✨You Don’t Need to Be Perfect to Be Loved – Real love isn’t about perfection. It’s about openness, growth, and becoming better together.More Lexy from Heart Snuggles:Soft Girl Season {Instant Access Course}: https://alive-to-enjoy.circle.so/checkout/soft-girl-season🧘🏽‍♂️ Free Meditation: Nervous System Regulation https://insighttimer.com/alivetoenjoy/guided-meditations/nervous-system-regulation-2Email: [email protected] + Relationship Coaching - https://iamlexydavis.com/Instagram: Alivetoenjoy & Heart SnugglesTimestamps from episode:00:00 – Introduction to Heart Snuggles01:07 - The Endless Romance Method01:28 - Understanding Control in Relationships02:45 - The Nervous System and Control04:53 - The Impact of Control on Relationships06:09 - The Importance of Trust in a Partner07:12 - Recognizing Sneaky Control Behaviors09:12 - The Consequences of Micromanaging10:38 - Building Confidence Through Trust12:56 - Expanding His Devotion13:48 - Expressing Emotions Without Control15:51 - Managing Your Own Emotions16:44 - Experimenting with No Control Dates18:29 - Empowering Phrases to Use19:22 - Journaling Prompts for Self-Reflection20:34 - Prayer for Trusting Your Man22:09 - Conclusion and Call to Action23:41 - Heart Breath Exercise

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