Most of us love the idea of unconditional support. We’re told it’s the gold standard because it feels warm, safe, cozy and ideal.I thought so too… until I realized it was quietly keeping me stuck.In this week’s episode: “The Downside to Unconditional Support”. I share a story from my early 30s. My therapist was kind, supportive, and warm. My sessions with her felt like “back in the womb.”Awesome, right? Isn’t that the goal?Yes, but here’s the catch: my nervous system got too relaxed. I left soothed, but my patterns didn’t change.The key: We need unconditional safety in the healing container and gentle drops of challenge so the nervous system sits in the window of tolerance where new pathways (real learning) form.In this episode, you’ll learn:The difference between unconditional safety and unconditional supportWhy growth can’t happen when you’re too comfortableHow to know if learning happened (hint: behavior changes between sessions)How to apply this in therapy, coaching, parenting, and relationshipsTimestamps02:05 Healed individuals create a ripple effect03:14 Why I’m not a fan of unconditional support03:30 Update on the in-person retreat05:12 A personal story that brought this home07:35 Why therapy felt good but didn’t create change09:43 The state in which growth cannot happen13:50 What many coaches/therapists don’t realize15:34 The only way to confirm learning16:08 Why many of us cycle in/out of therapyBringing this into parenting or partnership? Ask: Am I offering unconditional safety—and just enough challenge for growth?Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it...  You can submit a question or situation for a future episode right here (totally anonymous!): Submit your questionP.S. Love the podcast? Reviews help us spread these life-changing tools far and wide. If you leave a 5-star review and submit a screenshot here, I’ll send you my Rapid Relationship Repair mini-course—a short but powerful set of tools to reduce conflict and improve connection immediately.FREE tools:Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-NewsletterNeed more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

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