I SHOULD HAVE ASKED FOR HELP SOONER...

...but I’m a prideful person.

In my 20’s I didn’t ask for help because I loved the adventure of finding out. I loved learning and you could tell me something, which I liked, but I wanted to play with the implementation and so I’d do it myself.

In my early 30’s I didn’t ask for help because I was afraid to look like I didn’t have the answer. I had become book smart by this point and could hold my own in a conversation, which made me sound smart, but I felt like I had a lot to lose if people discovered I didn’t know how to do something.

In my late 30’s I didn’t ask for help because I was too overwhelmed by all the ideas I had collected and not only didn’t know what help to even ask for...

I also didn’t trust people who said they could help me. I had bought a lot of courses and programs over the years and distrusted the all to common Facebook ad that said it could 10x my business overnight.

Early into my 40’s I didn’t ask for help because I was a grown-ass man and how could I not have figured “this” out by now. Embarrassed, I chose to just stay in my maverick pattern, putting on a good face with a smart answer but stuck in progress towards the life I envisioned so many years ago.

Now at 43, I learning to ask for help.

The turning point for me was getting honest about where I was stuck. AND...

Seeing that we’re all stuck in some way.

That made me feel a part of the whole. I was no longer an outsider, but actually on par for the course.

Sharing on social in vulnerable ways helped because I saw that others felt the same way. My vulnerable posts got the most engagement which suggested to me that I wasn’t alone.

I think that’s when we start to feel open to asking for help... when we’re not alone.

If this is you...

If you have felt stuck for years...

Consider that what you need, what will get you unstuck is...

Asking for help.

In the words of Ram Dass, “We’re all just walking each other home”.

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