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Not a Caretaker? You Might Still Be Codependent (Ep. 176)
Are you codependent — but not in the way everyone talks about?
Most people think codependency is only about caretaking, rescuing, and sacrificing yourself to meet everyone else’s needs. And yes, that’s one form — but it’s not the only one. For me, codependency showed up in my career, performance, and need for approval. My identity rose and fell with ratings, audience feedback, and what people thought of me. If the show was a hit, I felt worthy. If the phones were silent or the criticism loud, I felt like a failure.
In this video, we explore hidden forms of codependency — not just the fixer or caretaker, but the performer, the people-pleaser, the overachiever. You’ll discover:
How codependency can show up in parenting, ministry, volunteering, and the workplace
Why our self-worth often gets tied to others’ expectations or achievements
The connection between codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing
The psychological roots of codependency — from low self-esteem to attachment wounds
How faith and biblical truth can break the cycle of performance-based identity
Whether your codependency comes from childhood trauma, dysfunctional family dynamics, or a lifetime of chasing approval, this episode will help you see that God’s love isn’t performance-based. Galatians 6 reminds us to carry our own load, not live someone else’s life — and to stop finding our worth in what we produce or how much we please others.
If you’ve been over-performing, over-pleasing, or over-sacrificing just to feel “enough,” it’s time to let that go. You are already loved. Already worthy. Already enough — in Him
Are you codependent — but not in the way everyone talks about?
Most people think codependency is only about caretaking, rescuing, and sacrificing yourself to meet everyone else’s needs. And yes, that’s one form — but it’s not the only one. For me, codependency showed up in my career, performance, and need for approval. My identity rose and fell with ratings, audience feedback, and what people thought of me. If the show was a hit, I felt worthy. If the phones were silent or the criticism loud, I felt like a failure.
In this video, we explore hidden forms of codependency — not just the fixer or caretaker, but the performer, the people-pleaser, the overachiever. You’ll discover:
How codependency can show up in parenting, ministry, volunteering, and the workplace
Why our self-worth often gets tied to others’ expectations or achievements
The connection between codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing
The psychological roots of codependency — from low self-esteem to attachment wounds
How faith and biblical truth can break the cycle of performance-based identity
Whether your codependency comes from childhood trauma, dysfunctional family dynamics, or a lifetime of chasing approval, this episode will help you see that God’s love isn’t performance-based. Galatians 6 reminds us to carry our own load, not live someone else’s life — and to stop finding our worth in what we produce or how much we please others.
If you’ve been over-performing, over-pleasing, or over-sacrificing just to feel “enough,” it’s time to let that go. You are already loved. Already worthy. Already enough — in Him
In God we trust