Send us a textAre you keeping score in your marriage? If you find yourself thinking "I'll do X when she does Y," you're not alone. This transactional approach is common, but it's also toxic. In this eye-opening episode, I reveal why trading contracts for covenant is the key to building a thriving, lasting marriage.The Hidden Danger of ScorekeepingI share a personal story about how I nearly sabotaged my own marriage by:a) Silently setting unrealistic standardsb) Withdrawing effort when I felt underappreciatedc) Treating love like a business transactionLearn why this mindset is so destructive and how to recognize if you've fallen into the same trap.Agape Love: The Antidote to Transactional MarriageDiscover the four pillars of agape love and how to implement them:a) Covenant identity: Putting "we" before "me"b) Self-governance: Owning your inputs and showing up as your best selfc) Creative service: Anticipating needs without expectationd) Radical safety: Creating a zero-sarcasm zone and mastering conflict repairBut what truly sets this episode apart is the breakdown of how to create intimacy without transaction. You'll learn why pressure breaks connection and how to restore it.Practical Tools for TransformationUncover:a) The weekly agape audit to keep your love on trackb) Three powerful scripts to enhance appreciation and connectionc) The "green light board" concept for a healthier approach to physical intimacyd) Why your health is a crucial act of love towards your spouseAre you ready to retire the scoreboard and build real, lasting love?Tune in for a 90-day experiment to revolutionize your marriage, starting today. This isn't just about avoiding conflict; it's about creating the kind of covenant relationship that withstands life's toughest challenges.Referenced Episodes:·      The 5-Minute Marriage Reset: Calm Escalating Arguments Fast·      Why Most Tough Conversations Fail (And the 10-Step Fix That Actually Works)Sponsors:MyPillowFree MyPillow Promo Code "THRIVE" for up to 80% off your entire order at MyPillow!  www.mypillow.com/thrive Want to Share Your Message with the World? Looking to be a guest on a podcast and reach a wider audience? Or maybe you host your own podcast and want to find amazing, high-quality guests—without the hassle?If you answered yes, PodMatch is exactly what you need. Join Here: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/driven2thrive Support our podcast: Support us on Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/thefallibleman   S06E34 of the Driven 2 Thrive Broadcast Want to be a guest on Driven 2 Thrive: Purpose, Growth, and Lasting Impact For Men? Send David Dowlen a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/driven2thrive DISCLAIMER: This post & video is designed for educational and/or informational purposes only and should not be used in any other manner. Links included in this description might be affiliate links. If you purchase a product or service with the links that I provide I may receive a small commission. There is no additional charge to ySupport the show

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