"You're Nice But I'm Not Interested" After Every First Date, Aaron's Nerd Dating Transformation

12/11/2025 1h 3min Episodio 28
"You're Nice But I'm Not Interested" After Every First Date, Aaron's Nerd Dating Transformation

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❌ Are you stuck getting rejected after every first date? Dating apps can feel exhausting when you're anxiously trying to perform for someone who barely knows you. Aaron spent 18 months going through 50+ first dates, constantly hearing "you're great, but [polite rejection]." Sound familiar? 📱💻 As someone who treats problems like debugging code, Aaron spent over a year Googling dating advice like error messages. He tried following the scripts, behaving as he thought people wanted, and analyzing every interaction afterward. But that people-pleasing approach just left him more exhausted and hopeless 😩🤹🏽‍♂️ The anxiety was real. Every date felt like a performance where he had to get everything right. The more dates that didn't work out, the more he'd over-analyze why it was happening and fall deeper into rabbit holes of "doing the right thing." 🐰 The constant failure was wrecking his confidence, and 18 months in, he was ready to give up entirely.🎯 But then something shifted. Through our work together, Aaron learned to stop treating dating like a problem to solve and started showing up as himself (anxious parts included). He stopped following generic advice and started building genuine connections, both on apps and at in-person meetups. The difference? Night and day ☀️😎 This isn't a story about becoming "confident" overnight or following some magic formula. It's about what happens when you stop performing and start being real. In this episode, Aaron and I talk about how the coaching process helped him go from feeling hopeless to becoming more successful and even enjoying the process! 🏆💬 If you've been rejected after every first date and feel like something must be wrong with you, listen to Aaron's story. You're not broken. You just need a different strategy 👾🎧 Press Start and level up your dating without following any scripts! 📜                      👾 WONDERING IF COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU?🕹️                                       Book a FREE Discovery Call!                               https://www.datelikeanerd.com/player2/ 📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discordRelated Episodes:From No Dates to Feeling Truly Seen and Accepted: Kirk's StoryThe Hidden Cost of Finding Love With Red Pill Dating: John’s Nerd Love Story'I'm Cooked' (Where to Find Dates After College), with Single Player BrandonTimestamps for lazy nerds:00:00:00 Intro00:01:14 What Makes Him a Nerd00:02:30 Life Before Coaching00:06:43 The Dating App Experience00:10:52 Quantity vs Quality00:12:12 Troubleshooting Dating00:16:23 Experience with Previous Dating Coach00:18:07 Date Like A Nerd Coaching00:24:27 Just Be Yourself00:36:51 Why There's No "Right Thing"00:42:36 Knowing Yourself00:45:45 Accountability in Coaching00:47:33 Quick Results00:51:17 Where to Meet Someone00:54:58 Online Dating Improvements00:59:19 Social Anxiety Improvements01:00:31 A Piece of Advice#datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #single #socialskills #podcastContact:[email protected] or@datelikeanerd on social media

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