Welcome to Episode 34! Do you say yes to others when your own personal to-do list keeps growing? Do you say no to others in a passive avoidance type of way? And then feel guilty after? Look, boundaries are tough! They are challenging to identify, to set, and to communicate to others and they are difficult to hold. But this work I guarantee is rewarding and so worth it. Boundaries are a big topic.  Today we’re going to focus on external boundaries. External boundaries are how others treat you. Or simply put, how you allow others to treat you. Episode 33 was about internal boundaries and how you treat yourself. If you haven’t yet, take a listen to Episode 33 when you’re done here. It will help you grasp the difference between internal and external boundaries.Today’s episode, episode 34 is about external boundaries. You can find the full transcript of this episode at crazybigdreams.biz/34. How others treat you, or how you allow others to treat you, is what external boundaries are all about. Maybe you’re even thinking, as we get started here, wait a minute, I can’t control how others treat me. And that’s the power and rewarding result of boundaries!Yes, you can. Although we can’t control how others behave and act, what they say, if they listen or respond, basically what is initiated by another. We can influence how we allow others to treat us. Do you hear the difference there? Recognizing the difference is really freeing in and of itself. Ultimately it’s up to the other person to respect a boundary that has been communicated and held. It’s also up to us to determine what we want to do about a situation or relationship when another person does not respect a boundary. Boundary work can have lots of layers. It can look and feel more difficult or less difficult with different people in our lives. Let’s start small and keep it simple for today and focus on the basics of external boundaries to get you started.This episode is not about cleaning up boundaryless relationships. That’s several steps down the path of boundary work. There is no action to be taken with others…yet. This message is about elevating your awareness of the boundaries in your life and work. Being able to identify what a boundary is, when a boundary is crossed, and if the boundary is external or internal.You can watch any sitcom or movie and quickly see when boundaries are crossed. There’s lots of drama on the screen. It’s how storylines are written.Let’s start out with an external life example and then we’ll get to an external business example.Time is an easy external boundary example to grasp. Time is one of the most common examples of external boundaries that is not respected. For example, if you’re having a backyard BBQ you may invite others by saying it’s from 5 pm to 8 pm. This is a boundary around your time. You’ve clearly identified when it starts and when it ends. If you were to invite by saying come by on Saturday, we’re cooking out. Stop by when it works for you. This is how not to have a boundary around your time.  For much more on external boundaries go to crazybigdreams.biz/34. 

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