Can we hold people accountable and meet them with compassion?In this powerful and thought-provoking episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with my friend and colleague Ken McMaster, a social worker, trainer, author, and founder of HMA in Aotearoa New Zealand. Ken has spent over four decades working at the frontline of domestic and family violence intervention, and brings a wealth of insight into how people change — and what it takes to truly support that change.We explore the complex relationship between compassion and accountability, the role of shame and trauma in harmful behaviours, and the importance of emotional regulation and self-compassion in the journey towards safer, healthier relationships. Ken shares both personal and professional reflections on what sustains him in this difficult work — and how we can keep showing up with care, even when the work is hard.Whether you’re a practitioner, a policymaker, or someone curious about the capacity for change, I hope this conversation offers something meaningful.TIMESTAMPS00:00 Introduction to Compassion in a T-Shirt00:17 Meet Ken McMaster: A Journey in Social Work01:24 Early Career and Foundational Experiences03:55 Addressing Violence: Professional and Personal Insights07:11 The Role of Compassion in Addressing Harmful Behaviours14:42 Understanding and Managing Shame17:28 Trauma, Adaptation, and Behaviour Change22:16 Self-Compassion and Creating New Narratives26:54 Addressing Youth Abusive Practices28:19 The Role of Anger in Violence30:58 The Importance of Emotional Regulation34:40 Impact of Engaged Fathers38:27 Challenges and Progress in Intervention Programs46:10 Support for Professionals in the Field49:35 Concluding Thoughts on Compassion and EngagementLINKS:You can find out more about Ken’s work at hma.co.nzSay hi on social:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drstansteindlTwitter/X: https://twitter.com/StanSteindlInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_stan_steindl/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-steindl-150a5264/Website: https://www.stansteindl.com/YouTube Video URL: https://youtu.be/OxK4cSw8RXU*Affiliate Disclaimer:Note this description contains affiliate links that allow you to find the items mentioned in this video and support the channel at no cost to you. While this channel may earn minimal sums when the viewer uses the links, the viewer is in no way obligated to use these links. Thank you for your support!Video hashtags:compassion, domestic violence, behaviour change, shame, self compassion, trauma, anger, emotional regulation, accountability, ken mcmaster

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