If you’ve ever called yourself a “low-maintenance friend” but secretly crave deeper connection… this conversation is for you.We talk about…-Why the “low-maintenance” trend quietly excuses neglect.-Loneliness as an epidemic—and how we’re drifting from community.-Medium-maintenance friendships: presence, checking in, reciprocity.-Healthy effort vs. toxic draining (discernment matters).-Behavior checks: stop flaking, raise emotional awareness, be curious.-Life stages & growing apart: naming why connection feels harder now.-Faith lens: God gave us each other—community is sacred stewardship.Let’s go Beneath The Seams!--00:00 Coming Up! 00:24 Beneath The Seams manifesto (why we go below the surface)01:40 Welcome back — what this space is & why this topic now03:02 The trend: why “I don’t require much” is quietly isolating us05:05 Maintenance analogies: nails, car, faith → relationships06:42 Personal truth: feeling detached despite having “friends”09:18 Growing apart as life changes (distance, kids, routines)11:06 The danger of “low” settings → from monthly to yearly to… strangers12:55 Naming what you need: depth as a love language15:08 Loneliness online & IRL; post-pandemic isolation habits17:10 Healthy effort vs. toxic draining (use discernment)18:36 The medium-maintenance baseline: 20:28 Presence IRL & putting the phone down21:44 Reciprocity confession: “Do I have friends because I maintain them?”23:12 Follow the nudge: when someone crosses your mind, call/text24:35 The “365-day rule”: are we still friends if we haven’t spoken in a year?26:04 “Maturity” as a mask for neglect 27:22 Faith lens: Genesis 2:18, Proverbs 27:17, disciples lived *together*29:05 Behavior checks: stop flaking; the cost of community is inconvenience31:02 Emotional awareness & curiosity: be in your friends’ business (lovingly)32:28 Personal commitment: leave the house more; invite community in34:00 Open invite: are you isolated or thriving in friendship?35:12 Reviews/help the show grow + share with a friend36:05 Closing blessing — and see you next week—Resources & Scriptures MentionedGenesis 2:18 — “It is not good that man should be alone.”Proverbs 27:17 — “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”---Let's stay connected.../ kalarigginsI’m Kala! Host, content creator, and storyteller.I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves.Here, we talk about the messy middle of life and creativity — the doubt, the breakthroughs, the moments that make you want to quit, and the ones that keep you going. (all while looking GOODt!)---Connect with me:Podcast Website: [https://beneaththeseams.com/](https://beneaththeseams.com/)Instagram + TikTok @kalarigginsContact:[email protected]]

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