Listen "Unlocking Unconscious Desires with Carolyn Lovewell & Chris Grosso – The Indie Spiritualist Podcast Ep. 133"
Episode Synopsis
Diving into the meaning of existential kink, Dr. Carolyn Lovewell joins Chris Grosso to discuss unlocking our unconscious desires.
This time on The Indie Spiritualist, Chris and Dr. Lovewell discuss:
The meaning of existential kink
The practice of orgasmic meditation
How vulnerability and truth can lead to more sensation
Considering what our unconscious desires may be
Practicing enjoying what is already happening
Realizing the darkness / pain we may be attracted to subconsciously
Themes within the myth of Persephone
The power addictions hold over us and admitting powerlessness
A guided meditation from Dr. Carolyn
Living as characters in God’s dream
Becoming aware of our own wholeness and non-dualism
Sleep Over Mystery School and the heart of western mysteries
About Dr. Carolyn Lovewell
Dr. Carolyn Lovewell (formarlly Elliott) is an American scholar, author, and occultist. She is the author of the book Existential Kink which focuses on shadow integration as a means for creating positive change in the self. She obtained a doctorate in Critical and Cultural Studies at the University of Pittsburgh. Check out Dr. Lovewell’s podcast, Sleep Over and learn more on her website.
“Existential kink is the idea that pretty much all of us human beings have an unconscious attraction to painful things. We’re all kinky, we’re all in a sadomasochistic relationship with the universe. The universe, God, whatever we want to call it is a dom that has no safe words. It just keeps coming, all the time. We can learn to make those unconscious attractions to painful or negative patterns conscious. When we do that, we liberate all sorts of energy that had been unconsciously stuck. Existential Kink is a deep tool for change.” – Dr. Lovewell
This time on The Indie Spiritualist, Chris and Dr. Lovewell discuss:
The meaning of existential kink
The practice of orgasmic meditation
How vulnerability and truth can lead to more sensation
Considering what our unconscious desires may be
Practicing enjoying what is already happening
Realizing the darkness / pain we may be attracted to subconsciously
Themes within the myth of Persephone
The power addictions hold over us and admitting powerlessness
A guided meditation from Dr. Carolyn
Living as characters in God’s dream
Becoming aware of our own wholeness and non-dualism
Sleep Over Mystery School and the heart of western mysteries
About Dr. Carolyn Lovewell
Dr. Carolyn Lovewell (formarlly Elliott) is an American scholar, author, and occultist. She is the author of the book Existential Kink which focuses on shadow integration as a means for creating positive change in the self. She obtained a doctorate in Critical and Cultural Studies at the University of Pittsburgh. Check out Dr. Lovewell’s podcast, Sleep Over and learn more on her website.
“Existential kink is the idea that pretty much all of us human beings have an unconscious attraction to painful things. We’re all kinky, we’re all in a sadomasochistic relationship with the universe. The universe, God, whatever we want to call it is a dom that has no safe words. It just keeps coming, all the time. We can learn to make those unconscious attractions to painful or negative patterns conscious. When we do that, we liberate all sorts of energy that had been unconsciously stuck. Existential Kink is a deep tool for change.” – Dr. Lovewell
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