Today, I’m sharing something that’s been on my mind lately: the difference between “being saved” by a partner and “being safe” with a partner. I’ve identified the damsel-in-distress energy that I brought to my previous two relationships and the major power differential that it created. My desire to be saved became a source of depletion for my partners rather than energy enrichment. Also, when they failed to show up the way I needed them to, it furthered my sense of feeling unsafe, unmet, and alone in the partnership.
I’ve been working on cultivating safety in my own body in order to empower myself both as an individual and a romantic partner. I think it’s so important that both partners contribute to safety in a relationship and actually take turns being an anchor for it for themselves and each other. In today’s episode, I explain why we’re actually predisposed to sabotage experiencing the exact safety we seek and how to reverse that outcome.
Listen in to hear about how healing your relationship with safety can foster intimacy, co-healing, and powerful partnerships.
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Topics Covered:

How I confused being taken care of by a partner with wanting to be saved by a partner
Where this energy stems from in my life
Why relationships with this kind of imbalance fail
How to create safety in your own nervous system
The importance of modeling co-regulation in families with children

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