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Listen "#42 The Antidote (Oliver Burkeman, 2012)"
Episode Synopsis
This week, we discussed another fantastic Oliver Burkeman book. The Antidote - Happiness for people who can't stand positive thinking.
Hope you enjoy.
Will & Luke.
00:00 Introductions
03:40 What the book is about? (How we try to be happy and misdirections of self help)
08:30 If we don't address our motivations 'to be happy' (feel we aren't good enough or have low self worth) then we can't be content. Attachments to certain outcomes. Clinging to pleasant, pushing away the negative. (Happiness through uncertainty).
11:30 Negative Capability (learning to tolerate discomfort)
15:00 Law of reversed effort
16:20 Positive Visualisation and Intention setting
20:15 Death reminders (living with life and death a companion)
24:40 Goals can be counterproductive (sacrificing the process by over focusing on the result). Other ways of approaching goals (effectual:resource first then decide goal vs causal: goal first and select resources).
29:45 Approach to habits and systems (when is enough)
38:00 Confronting failure as a vehicle to growth and perfectionism being fear driven
48:10 The safety catch - the hidden catch of insecurity (Longing for futures that we can't control) (Feel vulnerability to experience full range of reactions to the world around us).
54:00 Conclusions
Buy the book: https://www.oliverburkeman.com/
This specific episode can also be seen on: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C52ac9Bn7cw
Check our Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1Y_SKLFpax13442jA3giaw/videos
Listen to us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2R1BRcriKWcvOU1XMJQhyW
Listen to us on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/will-luke-discuss/id1572512365
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Also available on: Anchor, Breaker, Pocket Casts, Radio Public.
Hope you enjoy.
Will & Luke.
00:00 Introductions
03:40 What the book is about? (How we try to be happy and misdirections of self help)
08:30 If we don't address our motivations 'to be happy' (feel we aren't good enough or have low self worth) then we can't be content. Attachments to certain outcomes. Clinging to pleasant, pushing away the negative. (Happiness through uncertainty).
11:30 Negative Capability (learning to tolerate discomfort)
15:00 Law of reversed effort
16:20 Positive Visualisation and Intention setting
20:15 Death reminders (living with life and death a companion)
24:40 Goals can be counterproductive (sacrificing the process by over focusing on the result). Other ways of approaching goals (effectual:resource first then decide goal vs causal: goal first and select resources).
29:45 Approach to habits and systems (when is enough)
38:00 Confronting failure as a vehicle to growth and perfectionism being fear driven
48:10 The safety catch - the hidden catch of insecurity (Longing for futures that we can't control) (Feel vulnerability to experience full range of reactions to the world around us).
54:00 Conclusions
Buy the book: https://www.oliverburkeman.com/
This specific episode can also be seen on: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C52ac9Bn7cw
Check our Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1Y_SKLFpax13442jA3giaw/videos
Listen to us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2R1BRcriKWcvOU1XMJQhyW
Listen to us on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/will-luke-discuss/id1572512365
Listen to us on Google Podcasts: https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy81Zjk2YTNmYy9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw==
Also available on: Anchor, Breaker, Pocket Casts, Radio Public.
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