Blended families bring lots of new stressors into a relationship. Anxiety is high and sometimes your attempts to help your family to blend just increases the anxiety for everyone. In this episode, Darren & Paige talk about causes of anxiety and how to deal with anxiety in your family.Finding the cause - It is right in your face.Establishing a new family structurenew parent stylesdifferent methods of disciplinedifferent expectations of how children should behaveSteep learning curveCo-Parenting with your Ex. Children become pawns in the broken relationship. Watch out for this.Someone else is in the picture when you are raising your new family.How to lessen the anxietyIt’s about testing what works and what doesn’t work while making sure that children feel safe and secure in the process.Sit down and establish ground rules before your blend the families. Hard to do because you have on rose-colored glasses. Adults need to work hard to make everyone feel equal in the house.6 ideas to lessen the anxietyFigure out a co-parenting plan with your spouse early on.When you start to feel overwhelmed, take it one hurdle at a time.See your family -- including the exes -- as a team.Invest in a chore chartRemind yourself to celebrate even the smallest of victories.Whatever you do, don't aim for perfection.Time and acceptance of your new reality. If you keep hoping for something outside of your control will change it will continue to increase the anxiety. Known when to hold them, know when to fold them, know when to walk away, and know when to run. Change your expectations.  Get over the one-sided parenting. It is okay to be the one that does not put the kids in the middle. Pick what is worth the anxiety. Let other things go. Get rid of the feeling that you need to "Win".Articles.- http://www.essentialkids.com.au/development-advice/development/the-anxiety-of-the-blended-family-20130227-2f542- https://www.huffpost.com/entry/6-ways-to-handle-stress-_n_5002607- https://www.huffpost.com/entry/the-ugly-truth-about-blended-families_b_589363b6e4b0b4d609210569

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