What is an overly communicative spouse?Evaluate the current communication situation between your spouse and their ex. If you are not happy with what is going on then you need to set some boundaries.The ex calls to emotionally attach to your spouseCalls to fix something at the houseRuns out of gas.Comes into the house without permissionSetting BoundariesPlay the long GamePeople avoid setting boundaries because they don't want conflict.Start sooner than later. Get your boundaries up now.Avoid Emotional ConversationsTable the issue until there are cool heads.Think about your spouse's situation; they have to deal with their Ex and now you.Also, Your spouse should not be having emotional conversations with their Ex. Keep it business.Explain Exactly What Bothers You and whyBe specific about why the communication bothers you and how it makes you feel.Your spouse is not a mind reader.Only a stepmom can understand the emotion and situation they are in.Communicate to understandTry to understand why your spouse responds the way they do with their Ex. There is a specific reason they are doing it.Come to termsCome to terms that the Ex is always going to be a part of your life.You will always have to work at it.Setting boundaries is not something you check off your to-do list.Understand that there may be guilt and Loyalty issuesWhy is there some loyalty to the Ex? Why are they still falling under the I am going to make you guilty spell.Ask and give some empathy.Please get in the trenches with your spouse and ask them to as well.Identify the issuesEstablish the boundaries based on the problems.Where do we need more boundaries?What's working what is not?Plan what you'll do when these boundaries are crossedGet clear on when the boundaries are crossed.What are you going to do when the Ex dictates how to raise the children.When this happens, this is what we are going to do.Be proactiveSend emails to establish boundaries.,It is not what you say; it is how you say it.Business communication. Facts only. Keep the emotion out of it.Always consider what's best for the kidsAnticipate backlashStay consistent.It will get worse before it gets better.Don't back downLemonade Moment of the WeekAfter six weeks of the house being tore up to repair and redo the floors. They are finally done.Additional Linkshttps://www.jamiescrimgeour.com/the-poptart-diaries/how-to-get-your-partner-to-set-boundaries-with-the-ex

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