Have you ever caught yourself thinking your relationship will never change? That moment of hopelessness is precisely what makes breakthrough moments of connection so powerful—when something shifts and you glimpse what's possible through conscious partnership.In this vulnerable and insightful episode, I share a recent experience that validated years of relationship work with my husband. After two chaotic weeks dealing with a flooded basement, a sick child with pneumonia, missed family visits, and the stress of upcoming travel plans, my nervous system was completely dysregulated. I felt disconnected, overwhelmed, and caught in old interpretations about my relationship.What happened next demonstrates the profound difference between unconscious and conscious partnership. Despite my dysregulation, I chose to reach out to my husband with honesty about my emotional state. His response—warm, understanding, and exactly what I needed—not only provided immediate relief but also showed me that our years of work with Imago therapy and polyvagal theory were bearing fruit.This episode explores the fascinating connection between nervous system states and our interpretations of reality. When we're dysregulated, our thoughts become dysregulated too, creating stories that often aren't accurate. Learning to recognize this pattern without automatically believing those thoughts is a cornerstone of conscious relating.While conscious partnership requires effort, I've discovered that unconscious relating demands far more energy and creates much more suffering. Even in the midst of life's inevitable chaos, we can make choices that align with the relationships we truly want to create.Join me for this exploration of real relationship transformation, and discover how even small moments of conscious connection can shift your partnership in meaningful ways. Subscribe for weekly episodes that offer practical insights for navigating relationships, even when depression is in your bed.- If you and your partner are ready to co-create the roadmap to the relationship of your dreams, join us for the next in-person "Getting the Love You Want" Weekend Couples Retreat! For support in how to have deeper connections and better communication in the relationships that matter most in your life, follow the host, Trish Sanders on Instagram , Bluesky or LinkedIn.

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