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Episode Synopsis
How useful is it to compare yourself to others?
There is a dichotomy with comparisons sometimes it is healthy to compare yourself to others, if that is in say a sports or work field and seeing how you are doing alongside your peers.
When it comes to healing from emotional trauma or a physical injury comparing or having it compared to someone else injuries isn't useful it diminishes your ability to heal and minimises what you have gone through.
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00:00 Intro
01:34 “The Tao of Fully Healing” paragraph
02:15 The negative impacts of comparisons
02:45 Experience and emotional denial
03:45 Survivors' guilt and devaluing
04:56 Discounting as a barrier to healing
06:13 Comparison as a conversational deflection
06:22 Am I hurt enough to deserve help?
07:29 When “How are you?” makes us uncomfortable
09:26 Why do these conversations scare us?
10:00 Conversational bartering
10:44 Our conversation comfort zone?
11:46 Listening or fixing ears?
12:33 Acknowledging our own experiences
13:18 Our internal judgements and stories
14:44 Good versus Bad Comparisons
16:27 Perspective and the impact of our thinking!
18:35 Measures of comparison
19:43 Health checking our comparisons
22:42 How are you using comparison?
23:07 Key takeaways
26:27 Outro and how to contact us
There is a dichotomy with comparisons sometimes it is healthy to compare yourself to others, if that is in say a sports or work field and seeing how you are doing alongside your peers.
When it comes to healing from emotional trauma or a physical injury comparing or having it compared to someone else injuries isn't useful it diminishes your ability to heal and minimises what you have gone through.
Please support our podcast and our CIC.
Bedding and Beyond
https://bioptimizers.uk/DlQRA
https://thepinkpig.co.uk/QZuuV
Airport Parking
Replacement vehicle
batteries
Work with us here: ABRH.solutions
You can ask Ali and Rich questions via our email:
[email protected]
Join our LinkedIn and Facebook pages:
https://www.linkedin.com/company/rethinking-trauma-and-transition/?viewAsMember=true
https://www.facebook.com/RethinkingTrauma/
Or you can work individually with us here:
Ali https://mojo-in-mind.com/
Rich https://resilientdefence.co.uk/
You can buy Rich’s books here:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mr-Richard-Hilton/e/B0B1GXTH61/ref=aufs_dp_fta_dsk
00:00 Intro
01:34 “The Tao of Fully Healing” paragraph
02:15 The negative impacts of comparisons
02:45 Experience and emotional denial
03:45 Survivors' guilt and devaluing
04:56 Discounting as a barrier to healing
06:13 Comparison as a conversational deflection
06:22 Am I hurt enough to deserve help?
07:29 When “How are you?” makes us uncomfortable
09:26 Why do these conversations scare us?
10:00 Conversational bartering
10:44 Our conversation comfort zone?
11:46 Listening or fixing ears?
12:33 Acknowledging our own experiences
13:18 Our internal judgements and stories
14:44 Good versus Bad Comparisons
16:27 Perspective and the impact of our thinking!
18:35 Measures of comparison
19:43 Health checking our comparisons
22:42 How are you using comparison?
23:07 Key takeaways
26:27 Outro and how to contact us
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