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Listen "Episode 37: Solo on When Our Kids Trigger Us...and More "
Episode Synopsis
In this episode, I’m answering a mix of questions I’ve gotten from you - things like:
“Why does my kid’s behavior trigger me so much?”
“How do I know if I’m reacting to them or to something in me?”
“What do I do when they refuse to apologize?”
I share a real moment in the car after apple picking where I slipped into that familiar place of making their emotions about my expectations. Not because I don’t know better - but because maybe I’m still unlearning what I absorbed growing up. The work isn't about being perfect in the moment - it's about noticing it later and repairing . I also talk about something so many of us do without realizing it: parenting for the people watching instead of the child in front of us - especially when we feel judged, embarrassed, or responsible for how our kids make us “look.”
Here’s what else I get into:
Why certain behaviors, like refusing to apologize, hit such a nerve
How to tell if your reaction is about your kid—or about you
What to say instead of forcing an apology in the moment
How to repair later without using shame
Parenting for approval vs parenting for connection
Why noticing a trigger is actual growth, not proof you’re failing
This is basically my first full solo episode, and I’d really love to hear what you think. Do you want more episodes like this? What topics should I do next? Send me a DM, leave a review, or message me one of your questions - I’d love to build future solos around what you’re actually navigating.
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“Why does my kid’s behavior trigger me so much?”
“How do I know if I’m reacting to them or to something in me?”
“What do I do when they refuse to apologize?”
I share a real moment in the car after apple picking where I slipped into that familiar place of making their emotions about my expectations. Not because I don’t know better - but because maybe I’m still unlearning what I absorbed growing up. The work isn't about being perfect in the moment - it's about noticing it later and repairing . I also talk about something so many of us do without realizing it: parenting for the people watching instead of the child in front of us - especially when we feel judged, embarrassed, or responsible for how our kids make us “look.”
Here’s what else I get into:
Why certain behaviors, like refusing to apologize, hit such a nerve
How to tell if your reaction is about your kid—or about you
What to say instead of forcing an apology in the moment
How to repair later without using shame
Parenting for approval vs parenting for connection
Why noticing a trigger is actual growth, not proof you’re failing
This is basically my first full solo episode, and I’d really love to hear what you think. Do you want more episodes like this? What topics should I do next? Send me a DM, leave a review, or message me one of your questions - I’d love to build future solos around what you’re actually navigating.
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