Observing Before Reacting: The Skill That Saves Relationships

20/08/2025 19 min Episodio 36
Observing Before Reacting: The Skill That Saves Relationships

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When emotions run high, most people react from their wounds, not their wisdom. The result? Miscommunication, spiraling arguments, and a lot of "fixing" that doesn't actually solve anything. Whether it's your partner blowing up over a text you didn't answer fast enough or you shutting down the second you feel criticized, these moments aren't about the present, they're about old patterns. And unless you learn to recognize them, you'll keep recycling the same conflicts. In this solo episode, I break down my coaching approach: how I listen for the beliefs behind your words, why I see emotional reactions as inner child moments, and how curiosity can change the whole conversation. You'll learn: Why coaching isn't about fixing you (because you're not broken) How language reveals the beliefs driving your behavior The "inner child lens" for understanding emotional reactions Why curiosity > defensiveness in conflict Want to work with me 1:1 or as a couple to stop cycling the same conflicts? Check out my coaching packages at UnblockYourBS.com/workwithme or DM me on Instagram/TikTok @unblockyourbs   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

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