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Listen "Episode 16 - Embracing Imperfection From The Perfection Of Our True Selves (with Arielle Ford)"
Episode Synopsis
Host Helen Lee speaks with relationship expert, "leading personality in the personal growth and spiritual consciousness movement" and author of 11 books, Arielle Ford about our human need to learn how to love an imperfect person perfectly. Arielle even goes so far to say that we are here on Earth to learn how to do this. And Helen totally agrees and talks about embracing the imperfection of our human self from the perfection of who we really are, the highest aspects of who we are, which she is advocating as a solution for these times of great uncertainty. She says that this is necessary not only for couples but all relationships, both personal and professional.
With all that has been happening in the last couple of years - including the pandemic and now, the war in Ukraine - people are more stressed and anxious, and all the more, we need to bring greater love and understanding, caring and consideration, acceptance and kindness to all interactions and relationships, while firmly drawing and keeping healthy boundaries at the same time.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Helen asks Arielle about her focus in her work as a relationship expert on accepting imperfection in relationships, which she says is precisely what we are here on Earth to learn how to do. Arielle talks about how the ancient Japanese aesthetic of wabi-sabi which is "the idea of honouring all things old, worn, weathered, imperfect and impermanent, and seeks to find beauty in perfection, to celebrate imperfection" has helped her personally and in her marriage (and will most certainly help in all relationships, with couples, families and the work place).
Conflict is a natural part of relationships but the ability to navigate such conflicts is a learnt skill. People who are in happy marriages live longer, healthier, happier, more satisfying lives.
Accepting imperfections is a daily practice. For everyday annoyances, a conversation is needed from a place of kindness and compassion. In terms of the pandemic and the forced isolation, single people seem to now be looking for love, while couples and marriages have been tested.
We can take these principles of accepting imperfection beyond the sphere of romantic relationships into the work place and wider social groupings. Often a seemingly insurmountable irritation can be diminished by reframing your point of view. It comes back to love and acceptance.
Everyone, at some level, feels that they are not enough and therefore feels insecure. Everybody wants be acknowledged that they have done the best they can. We all want to be loved and accepted as we are.
"Everything is energy and the energy is a frequency". With enough people holding the same positive intention for a miracle, that attuned energy can produce a desired result for the world.
Through the growing movement of merging with our higher selves and the acceptance that we are all part of one energy, the Golden Age will come about and the work done by many, including Helen and Arielle will come to fruition.
BEST MOMENTS
‘The whole idea of perfection is just a big fat lie, it’s just a myth. None of us is perfect, you know you’re not perfect, I know I’m not perfect, and yet we are constantly striving for perfection in ourselves, in our bodies, in our kids, in our careers, and everybody around us, which leaves us in a state of upset, anger and disappointment because we can’t get to this thing that doesn’t exist called perfection.’ - Arielle
‘We have to learn to communicate with kindness and with empathy and with compassion instead of screaming, yelling, bitching, moaning and complaining.’ - Arielle
‘It’s like keeping a covenant, a commitment, a great bond, right?’ – Helen
‘I tell people right now I believe we are in the middle of a 7.5 billion person nervous breakdown. We’re all anxious. Even if you’re somebody who is normally very chill and you’re not high anxiety, the fact that we co-exist in the unified field together (means) that you may not be a nervous wreck, but because pretty much everybody (around you) is, you are reacting and vibrating at the frequency of crazy.’ – Arielle
'The main thing that I am advocating for the whole world is to merge our human self with the highest aspects of who we are. We already have the perfection within us. To me, it's a matter of loving and embracing the human self exactly as we are and merging it with the Soul and the Spirit that we are as well'and which we have not focused on.' - Helen
‘What would you give to trip over a wet towel when they’re no longer with you?’ – Arielle
‘About merging with soul and the highest aspects of who we are. When this really happens it's not only that you can come easily from a place of certainty from within yourself, you also more effortlessly move into ease and grace.’ - Helen
‘What’s true is that the blood that runs through the Russians is the same blood that runs through the Ukrainians, it’s the same blood that runs through you and me.’ – Arielle
'You don't need any tools, once you have merged (with the highest aspects of who you are), that's your go to, it's your support, it's your leader, it's your own inner coach, it's everything, it's your rock, it's your source of Higher Intelligence or wisdom, of comfort, of joy, of playfulness, everything really.'
ABOUT THE GUEST
Arielle Ford is a leading personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement. For the past 30 years she has been living, teaching, and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is a celebrated love and relationship expert, author, and speaker.
Arielle is a gifted writer and the author of eleven books including the international bestseller, THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. She has also written many groundbreaking books including Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate: A Practical Guide To Happily Ever After and Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships.
www.soulmatesecret.com
ABOUT THE HOST HELEN LEE
Founder & Principal Coach of Lee Heiss Coaching, Helen Lee coached thousands of clients worldwide and multinationals in Asia-Pacific in the last three decades. She created a powerful ontological coaching methodology that ignites the true greatness or invincibility in people. Thoroughly tested and honed over 20 years, this methodology consistently and rapidly produces desired results.
Helen was also a journalist who later ran her own communications consultancies in Australia and Asia.The Business Times listed her in its “Who’s Who of Women Shaping Singapore” while The Straits Times named her “The Leader Prodder” in a feature on Singapore’s top coaches.
VALUABLE RESOURCES
To become a member of the Transform and Thrive Club and benefit from monthly powerful live sessions on Zoom video calls and multimedia coaching, check out and sign up here:
www.transformandthrive.club
CONTACT METHOD
www.leeheiss.com
www.facebook.com/leeheiss
www.facebook.com/transformingpeopleworldwide
www.instagram.com/helenleeheiss
[email protected]
With all that has been happening in the last couple of years - including the pandemic and now, the war in Ukraine - people are more stressed and anxious, and all the more, we need to bring greater love and understanding, caring and consideration, acceptance and kindness to all interactions and relationships, while firmly drawing and keeping healthy boundaries at the same time.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Helen asks Arielle about her focus in her work as a relationship expert on accepting imperfection in relationships, which she says is precisely what we are here on Earth to learn how to do. Arielle talks about how the ancient Japanese aesthetic of wabi-sabi which is "the idea of honouring all things old, worn, weathered, imperfect and impermanent, and seeks to find beauty in perfection, to celebrate imperfection" has helped her personally and in her marriage (and will most certainly help in all relationships, with couples, families and the work place).
Conflict is a natural part of relationships but the ability to navigate such conflicts is a learnt skill. People who are in happy marriages live longer, healthier, happier, more satisfying lives.
Accepting imperfections is a daily practice. For everyday annoyances, a conversation is needed from a place of kindness and compassion. In terms of the pandemic and the forced isolation, single people seem to now be looking for love, while couples and marriages have been tested.
We can take these principles of accepting imperfection beyond the sphere of romantic relationships into the work place and wider social groupings. Often a seemingly insurmountable irritation can be diminished by reframing your point of view. It comes back to love and acceptance.
Everyone, at some level, feels that they are not enough and therefore feels insecure. Everybody wants be acknowledged that they have done the best they can. We all want to be loved and accepted as we are.
"Everything is energy and the energy is a frequency". With enough people holding the same positive intention for a miracle, that attuned energy can produce a desired result for the world.
Through the growing movement of merging with our higher selves and the acceptance that we are all part of one energy, the Golden Age will come about and the work done by many, including Helen and Arielle will come to fruition.
BEST MOMENTS
‘The whole idea of perfection is just a big fat lie, it’s just a myth. None of us is perfect, you know you’re not perfect, I know I’m not perfect, and yet we are constantly striving for perfection in ourselves, in our bodies, in our kids, in our careers, and everybody around us, which leaves us in a state of upset, anger and disappointment because we can’t get to this thing that doesn’t exist called perfection.’ - Arielle
‘We have to learn to communicate with kindness and with empathy and with compassion instead of screaming, yelling, bitching, moaning and complaining.’ - Arielle
‘It’s like keeping a covenant, a commitment, a great bond, right?’ – Helen
‘I tell people right now I believe we are in the middle of a 7.5 billion person nervous breakdown. We’re all anxious. Even if you’re somebody who is normally very chill and you’re not high anxiety, the fact that we co-exist in the unified field together (means) that you may not be a nervous wreck, but because pretty much everybody (around you) is, you are reacting and vibrating at the frequency of crazy.’ – Arielle
'The main thing that I am advocating for the whole world is to merge our human self with the highest aspects of who we are. We already have the perfection within us. To me, it's a matter of loving and embracing the human self exactly as we are and merging it with the Soul and the Spirit that we are as well'and which we have not focused on.' - Helen
‘What would you give to trip over a wet towel when they’re no longer with you?’ – Arielle
‘About merging with soul and the highest aspects of who we are. When this really happens it's not only that you can come easily from a place of certainty from within yourself, you also more effortlessly move into ease and grace.’ - Helen
‘What’s true is that the blood that runs through the Russians is the same blood that runs through the Ukrainians, it’s the same blood that runs through you and me.’ – Arielle
'You don't need any tools, once you have merged (with the highest aspects of who you are), that's your go to, it's your support, it's your leader, it's your own inner coach, it's everything, it's your rock, it's your source of Higher Intelligence or wisdom, of comfort, of joy, of playfulness, everything really.'
ABOUT THE GUEST
Arielle Ford is a leading personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement. For the past 30 years she has been living, teaching, and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is a celebrated love and relationship expert, author, and speaker.
Arielle is a gifted writer and the author of eleven books including the international bestseller, THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. She has also written many groundbreaking books including Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate: A Practical Guide To Happily Ever After and Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships.
www.soulmatesecret.com
ABOUT THE HOST HELEN LEE
Founder & Principal Coach of Lee Heiss Coaching, Helen Lee coached thousands of clients worldwide and multinationals in Asia-Pacific in the last three decades. She created a powerful ontological coaching methodology that ignites the true greatness or invincibility in people. Thoroughly tested and honed over 20 years, this methodology consistently and rapidly produces desired results.
Helen was also a journalist who later ran her own communications consultancies in Australia and Asia.The Business Times listed her in its “Who’s Who of Women Shaping Singapore” while The Straits Times named her “The Leader Prodder” in a feature on Singapore’s top coaches.
VALUABLE RESOURCES
To become a member of the Transform and Thrive Club and benefit from monthly powerful live sessions on Zoom video calls and multimedia coaching, check out and sign up here:
www.transformandthrive.club
CONTACT METHOD
www.leeheiss.com
www.facebook.com/leeheiss
www.facebook.com/transformingpeopleworldwide
www.instagram.com/helenleeheiss
[email protected]
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