Guidance and Discipline for Skill Building Podcast0:00 MUSIC0:07 ANNMARIE MCMAHILL:Hello, I'm Annmarie McMahill and this is a Tools for Your Child’s Success podcast.In this podcast, we'll be learning about guidance and discipline for skill building.JENNIFER MILLER:Guidance and discipline for skill building is really about being deliberate and purposeful.ANNMARIE MCMAHILL:I'd like to introduce our guest for today, Jennifer Miller. Jennifer has 20 years of experience working with adults to help them become more effective with children through social and emotional learning. She is the author and illustrator of the book, Confident Parents, Confident Kids, Raising Emotional Intelligence in Ourselves and Our Kids from Toddlers to Teenagers. Jennifer is also the contributing expert to NBC's Today Parenting. In addition, she's contributed to a lot of articles and expertise in popular publications like the Washington Post, the Huffington Post, and Edutopia. And, most importantly, she's the mom of a 12-year-old son, and she makes her home in Ohio. So, welcome, Jennifer.JENNIFER MILLER:Thank you, Annmarie. It's a treat. I'm looking forward to our topic today.ANNMARIE MCMAHILL:Oh, good. So, today we're going to talk about guidance and discipline for skill building. And, my first question is just, what does this mean? And why is that important?JENNIFER MILLER:Yeah. Guidance and discipline for skill building is really about being deliberate and purposeful as a parent or any caregiver in how you support your child through the missteps and mistakes that naturally happen with development. They necessarily need to test boundaries. And, so how we handle that can be a skill building opportunity. We can always look at those moments and transform those moments into opportunities to build skills like self control, like learning responsibility. So, they are a social and emotional skill building moment.ANNMARIE MCMAHILL:Alright. So, what I'm hearing you say is that parents can provide guidance and discipline while growing skills and overall improve their relationship with their child.JENNIFER MILLER:Yeah, that's key. I think looking for opportunities to build skills also enhances your trust with your child so that instead of jumping to scolding or responding with a raised tone of voice, if we step back and take a moment and think about how we could use it as a teachable moment, it actually can deepen our trust between parent and child and use it as a moment where we can develop these social and emotional skills that we know are so critical in life.ANNMARIE MCMAHILL:So, at what age is guidance and discipline for skill building appropriate?JENNIFER MILLER:Well, you can teach social and emotional skills from birth all the way through emerging adulthood. And I think that we have created specific tools for promoting guidance and discipline. And, correct me if I'm wrong, Annmarie, but I think it's two or three on up to 19. Is that correct?ANNMARIE MCMAHILL:The website does have that sort of starting at two. And so, what's the difference between zero to two and two to 19?JENNIFER MILLER:It’s really awareness. Babies, infants, and toddlers are not yet aware enough to push boundaries. But, when they hit about the age of two, three, and we can feel it as parents, they are ready to take risks. They're ready to take chances. They're ready to push back. They learn that word, “no,” and they use it over and over again. And, it can really push our buttons. So, because it can push our buttons, we can react in ways, maybe, that we were reacted to as children from our parents. But, there may be ways that we don't want to react -- that we think at the end of the night, "Ah, I lost my patience. I lost my...

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