Episode 52: Why You Get Defensive—and Push Her Away

17/10/2025 18 min

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Episode Synopsis

You don’t mean to shut her down, but every time she brings something up, you feel cornered.Your tone shifts, your body tightens, and before you know it, you’re defending yourself instead of listening.You tell yourself you’re “just explaining,” but that explanation feels like rejection to her.She’s not trying to criticize you—she’s trying to connect with you.In this episode, we unpack:👉 Why you get defensive even when you don’t mean to👉 How it triggers disconnection and resentment👉 The nervous system link between defensiveness and control👉 What it takes to stay calm, grounded, and engaged when it feels uncomfortableYou don’t need to talk more—you need to regulate better.Because when you stop defending, you finally create the safety she’s been asking for.How to work with me ⬇️:✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here:calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

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