John carries out a live coaching session helping Alex to understand how she has built up her own relational patterns, relationship beliefs and attraction style. She is going to be discussing relationships in her own life to try and create a different outcome by implementing change.   KEY TAKEAWAYS First of all John asks Alex about her previous relationships and the kind of people she usually draws towards herself. Drawing on Alex’s recently ended relationship experience triggered by a period of personal growth, John defines the common occurrence of transformation of self development and the incompatibility it can produce.   Parental relationships are discussed to show how Alex’s attitude to partnerships were formed. As the session continues John offers insights into Alex’s relational patterns, explaining repeated habits and the connections to her experiences. In conclusion John explains how Alex can change her habits to perhaps begin to build stronger, different relationships within her life by opening her mind to circumstances she would normally have avoided.   BEST MOMENTS ‘8 years together. We were engaged for the last year of that too. That for me looking back, I can see why we’re not together and I’m happy that we are not together. But looking back on that I can still see that there were positive aspects of it.’ – Alex  ‘That’s quite common in relationships isn’t it? When you get together with somebody as you try and change yourself throughout that journey, they’re quite comfortable with the person you were when you got together. They prefer you to stay in that space.’ – John ‘I’ve never felt a deep and loving connection to either of them. I think really in hindsight there were a lot of mental health problems there between the two of them. A lot of sadness.’ – Alex ‘That maybe explains the relationship that you did have through someone that was very dominant and you were dependent on to function and they ran that relationship. You didn’t have your voice, you followed what they wanted. You can understand why that came to an end when you decided to change that dynamic.’ - John  ‘Every time I feel someone that I’ve connected with move away from me it’s like a wound that rips a little deeper each time.’ – Alex ‘Am I going to thank myself for these decisions that I’m making now? I know the answers “no” when it comes to this particular person.’ – Alex ‘You have this dreamy idea about what a relationship could be like and actually relationships can be that dreamy, but I don’t think you really buy into that scenario completely.’ - John   VALUABLE RESOURCES If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy           ABOUT THE HOST I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.   CONTACT METHOD  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching
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