How to navigate the overwhelming feelings of rejection without self-blame. In this episode, I'm sharing a personal and vulnerable topic: feeling rejected.  Rejection is a normal, yet often unconscious, human experience, but when it happens, it can feel horrible.  I recently went through an experience where a casual friend of 20 years stopped replying to my text messages, and it left me wondering what I could have done to cause it. Rejection can feel overwhelming — it's actually tied to our primal need for community, connection, and survival. Sometimes, there really is something we can take responsibility for and improve, while other times, it's completely about the other person and their current capacity or circumstances. And there's nothing for us to do. Now, here's how most of us react when we encounter the sting of rejection: We either push to fix the situation or shut down entirely.  In this episode, I'll share practical strategies for coping with rejection. Most importantly, I discuss how to put the experience into perspective and proceed according to your values, even when you don't get the clarity you want. Takeaways: Rejection is a normal human experience that can feel terrible, especially when it comes from people close to you, because we're hardwired for connection and community. Rejection often triggers intense emotions like sadness, hurt, and anger, and can lead to self-doubt, sometimes stemming from an unconscious expectation that everyone should like us. Why your initial reaction to rejection is often to "fix it," even if you don't care about the person, due to a biological and hardwired intolerance for being disliked. Examine your own behavior and ask yourself what you can take responsibility for. Accepting your own imperfections and apologizing can help, but avoid blaming the other person. Consider the other person's circumstances, because sometimes, rejection isn't about you at all, but about the other person's life, mental state, or capacity to connect. Cope with compassion and be sure to treat yourself with kindness, talk to trusted people, reflect rationally to challenge negative thoughts, engage in self-care, and monitor your mindset. Find clarity through your personal values — such as integrity- to guide your actions, set boundaries, and make generous assumptions about others' intentions. Timestamps:  00:00 Introduction: What is Rejection? 01:34 The Pain of Rejection 02:42 A Recent Personal Experience with Rejection 03:41 Historical Context of Rejection 05:32 A Human Biological Response to Rejection 07:34 Self-Reflection and Responsibility 11:06 Understanding Others' Perspectives 14:02 Coping Strategies for Rejection 22:20 Conclusion and Invitation to The Overwhelm Cure Program Invitation: Sign up for The Overwhelm Cure Program The Overwhelm Cure Program is a six-week program, where you'll participate in regular exercises, and we'll come together each week to discuss ways to help you finally overcome feelings of overwhelm. We start in January! Quick Links: Sign up for The Overwhelm Cure Program Connect with me: Schedule a free 20-minute consultation Connect on LinkedIn Connect on Facebook Connect on Instagram

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