How well do you accept help? This used to be an Achilles heel for me: Accepting and receiving help without guilt. While I've come a long way in making holiday gatherings special without wearing myself out, I used to approach them with overworking and then eventually resenting the work and being kind of cranky about laboring away in the kitchen instead of enjoying my guests. The Canadian Thanksgiving is coming up soon, and people have been reaching out, asking, "What can I bring?" and "How can I help?" Now, I have to admit that these questions make me uncomfortable. Between hyper-independence and a sprinkle of perfectionism, I used to work really hard and take on too much, while trying to make it look easy. This never works well! Today, I know better. Now I know it's not going to serve anyone to stay up all night working.  I asked myself: How do I want to feel when hosting a holiday gathering? I want to feel happy and connected. The work is essentially about how I go about creating that result. Today, you’ll hear about how healthy reciprocity is good for our relationships and our overall well-being. Here's what you'll discover today: Why it's important to become aware when we're feeling overwhelmed, so we can address it. Why so many of us struggle to accept help without feeling guilty. How women often face cultural expectations to be the primary caregiver, host, and problem-solver—leading to hyper-independence and burnout. When a desire for perfectionism and control can lead to taking on too much. The sneaky way over-functioning leads to stress, exhaustion, anger, and resentment. Systems thrive on balance, and people naturally want to give back—so the more we allow others to help, the healthier, more joyful relationships we foster. Some sample new thoughts you can practice to help you welcome help, like: "I'm just as important as everyone else," "I don't need to do everything or prove anything," and "My worth is not tied to what I can produce." Remember, uncomfortable feelings are signals that something is off and needs to change. Question where these thoughts and feelings came from, ask if they're serving you, and see where you can shift your perspective to healthy reciprocity to help you find more joy and connection. Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction to The Overwhelm Cure 01:06 The Importance of Asking for Help 02:44 Hosting Holidays and the Pressure to Be Perfect 06:08 The Accompanying Guilt Accepting Help 12:36 Understanding Reciprocity & Its Benefits 18:08 Changing Our Mindsets and Practicing New Thoughts 24:59 Invitation Connect with me: Sign up for the next Dare To Lead Workshop Schedule a free 20-minute consultation Connect on LinkedIn Connect on Facebook Connect on Instagram

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