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Hey! Click here to send me a message to tell me how much you love the podcast or suggest an episode topic.💬 Episode SummaryHey sis. This week’s episode is a heart-to-heart. I’m showing up a little late (your girl’s flying solo on production), and I’m letting you know we’re taking a June break from full episodes.But this episode is the one if you’ve ever felt like you needed permission to enjoy your life. I talk about healing through joy, how play is part of reparenting, and how that self-doubt you feel isn’t truth—it’s programming.If you've been stuck in “who am I to…?” energy, this one’s your reminder that you don’t need permission. Just go.⏱️ Time-Stamped Chapters[01:55] Late But Here Why this episode dropped late and how juggling travel, RESOLVE, and podcasting is a lot—but I’m still showing up.[02:21] June Break Ahead Announcing the June hiatus and encouraging you to catch up on past episodes during this time.[02:50] Go Back and Listen Again The wisdom hits different the second time—revisit older episodes and notice what new truths show up.[03:19] Mulch & Memorial Day A quick life update: mulch delivery, gardening joy, and stepping into something new just for me.[04:09] This Week’s Topic: Permission This episode centers around giving yourself permission to do something new—something joyful and healing.[06:36] Recognizing Internalized Voices I name the internal voice of doubt and realize—it’s my mother’s. That programming still lingers, even during joy.[08:21] Joy Is Part of Healing Expression and play are not extra—they're medicine. Depression lifts when we start to express and explore joy.[10:49] Creating New Data Healing means gathering evidence through experience—doing things that build trust in yourself, even when it’s scary.[12:46] Redefining Without Permission When no one gave you the authority to be you, you’ve got to crown yourself. That’s where the grief and power collide.[14:13] From Doubt to Knowing The inner “I don’t know anything” voice is a lie. And we prove it wrong by doing the damn thing—again and again.[15:36] The Grief of Becoming Becoming yourself brings grief too—letting go of old identities that were never really yours to begin with.[16:55] What You Never Got Doing joyful things can feel humiliating when you’ve never had someone affirm your desires. That’s real—and it hurts.[17:53] Feel It to Heal It All those feelings you avoid? They surface through new experiences. That’s how healing works. It’s not optional.[18:41] You’re Not Out of Place Imposter syndrome isn’t about the room—it’s about old wounds. You’re not out of place. You’re just stretching.[20:02] Community Normalizes Your Joy Find your people. Whether it's gardening or anything else, being around folks who reflect your joy back to you matters.[21:29] Collect Evidence That You’re Enough Every new, joyful thing you try is proof that you’re not who they said you were. That’s how we break the cycle.[21:59] You’re Not Alone This healing journey can feel lonely. But I promise—you are not alone. This podcast is proof.[22:58] Do It Just for You Try something that feels good for you—even if it’s “frivolous.” Capitalism lied. Play is not a waste.[23:58] Final Word & June Reminder We’re on pause for June, but I’ll be back in July. In the meantime, take good care of yourself, with love and Support the showFollow me on IG @jenniferarnise
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