How Can I Prevent My Child from Becoming a People Pleaser?
People-pleasing is a habit that can occur not only in adults but also in children depending on their particular situations.
It often happens in children due to a need they may not be getting from their parents, whether purposeful or not. There are, however, ways you can prevent your child from becoming a people pleaser.
Teach Them That Not Everyone Will Like Them.
Many people go into school thinking that everyone will like them and like the things they enjoy. It is especially true if they have never been to daycare or are an only child. It's important to teach them that it is okay if someone does not like them.
Encourage Them to Stand Out from the Crowd
Teaching them from an early age that it is okay to be different is an important part of preventing people-pleasing. If they know that it is okay to stand out and be independent, they are less likely to need the praise of others.
When Disciplining a Child, Do Not Make it About You
Children are going to make messes and mistakes. That is the nature of learning to be independent and growing up. When they make mistakes, be sure you are disciplining them for the behavior and not for intruding on your time.
Do Not Issue Threats
It is easy when a child is doing something less than good to threaten them about not doing it again. For example, "If you do that again, you will…." This action breeds people-pleasing behavior as they will learn that if they do not please you, they will get a punishment.
Praise Your Children, Just Do Not Go Overboard
Children need to hear more praise than they need to know when they have done something wrong. It is important to ensure that the praise is healthy and does not go overboard. Giving too much praise for the smallest things can turn them into people-pleasers who crave that praise.
Lead by Example
Children are naturally intuitive about the things they see and hear around them. Because of this, it is important to show them how to help others positively and healthily. If you sacrifice everything to help others, they will grow up doing the same things.
Overall, raising a child to be a kind, helpful, loving, and generous person is the primary job of a parent. It is also vital that you also teach them that while helping others is a good thing, they should also take care of themselves in the process.

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