In this episode, Cindy Esliger examines the fine line between honesty and encouragement when offering advice. While we don’t want to ignore challenges or sugarcoat reality for others, we also shouldn’t crush their dreams prematurely by offering too much realism that comes across as pessimism. How do we encourage others while still offering constructive insights to help refine their path? Cindy offers a way forward through reframing the conversation in curiosity and empowering others to see potential instead of doubt. When we reflect on our experiences and offer advice like “don’t get your hopes up” or “it’s harder than it looks” we may think we’re protecting someone from disappointment by being realistic. In reality, however, we’re letting our own insecurities or cultural conditioning towards skepticism deflate their confidence. Cindy offers three reasons why telling people their dreams won’t work is a waste of energy: 1) They’ll figure it out for themselves, 2) We might be wrong, and 3) We’re robbing them of growth. Cindy differentiates honesty from negativity and reframes our advice-giving with curiosity instead of cold realism. She suggests a line of questions about why they’re excited or how they’ll approach challenges. There are ways to be honest without crushing dreams. Cindy shares four strategies for how to answer honestly while also making it easier to take in: 1) Validate first, prepare later, 2) Frame feedback constructively, 3) Encourage self-reflection, and 4) Resist the urge to over-prepare them. Fostering possibility is good for everyone.  Resources discussed in this episode:Guide to Empowering PossibilitiesAstronomic AudioConfidence Collective—Contact Cindy Esliger Career Confidence Coaching: website | instagram | facebook | linkedin | email Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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