Why I Flipped Off a Driver 45 Minutes After Meditating (And What Anger Actually Is)

04/09/2025 48 min Episodio 11
Why I Flipped Off a Driver 45 Minutes After Meditating (And What Anger Actually Is)

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Forty-five minutes after meditating, feeling centered and peaceful, I flipped off a driver who cut me off on the freeway—with my kids in the car. He slammed on his brakes. I almost rear-ended him. I flipped him off again. He braked harder. The guy who was floating on a meditation cushion that morning was now blind with rage, endangering his own children over getting cut off in traffic.This episode is about anger—the fire that burns the house you live in while you wave your fists at the neighbor. I share my greatest anger hits: destroying a PlayStation controller so violently it exploded (the frame damage still hangs on my wall as a reminder), working 60-hour weeks for $1 tips while watching corporate profits soar, and the rage simmering in this country that led Luigi Mangione to execute a healthcare CEO. We explore why anger eclipses awareness, how it's actually inside us rather than caused by external circumstances, and the paradox of holding both relative truth (injustice is real, rage is justified) and ultimate truth (it all belongs, even the painful parts) simultaneously.Featuring wisdom on anger as a teacher and mirror, the Buddha on killing anger with its "honeyed crest and poison root," the Third Patriarch of Zen on having no preferences, Thich Nhat Hanh on breathing with anger until it transforms into compassion, Jesus on loving enemies, MLK's "we will match your capacity to inflict suffering by our capacity to endure suffering," Osho on risking everything for awareness, Kabir on searching for the crooked and finding it within, Rumi on not getting stuck in winter, and the farmer parable on "you never know."We also discuss: why $2.7 trillion goes to war while $37 billion could end world hunger, the difference between reacting and responding, why hatred is never appeased by hatred, Paul's "peace that surpasses understanding," and how to be a cooling presence instead of adding fuel to fires.If you've ever lost your center in an instant, raged despite your spiritual practice, or struggled to find compassion when the world feels unjust—this one's for you.Want to share a thought?Support the show🔗 All links: https://linktr.ee/standingnowhere🎧 Listen on your favorite app💬 Join our community on Discord📩 Email: [email protected](Tap “Support the show” above to become a Patron — thank you!)

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