#35 Stop Having Secrets

22/08/2025 13 min Temporada 1 Episodio 35

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What would it feel like to live with no secrets? To wake up without rehearsing lies in your head or guarding a version of yourself from the world? Your secrets are not protecting you; they’re draining you. Every secret is weight you carry, energy you waste, and shame you feed. In this episode, I cut through the myth that secrecy keeps you safe and get real about why it actually keeps you stuck.Sources:Michael Slepian’s research on secrecy (Columbia University) — studies showing the average person holds 13 secrets at once, and how secrecy weighs on mental energy.Journal of Experimental Psychology (2012) — study showing people with secrets literally saw hills as steeper and tasks as harder.Sidney Jourard’s work on self-disclosure (1970s) — showing openness builds trust and connection.Laurenceau & Barrett (1998) — research proving intimacy grows through vulnerability and responsiveness.James Pennebaker’s expressive writing studies — writing down your secrets reduces stress and improves physical health.

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