Transcript for Ep18:Welcome to SHE is Confident. Hi! This is Deon Teh and in this episode, I will be sharing with you about GET BACK YOUR INNER STRENGTHDo you recall the emergency instruction video that we must watch every time we take the plane?In the video, in the event of low air pressure in the cabin, the oxygen masks will be dispensed and we are told to wear the masks first before we can help children or others. Do you know why?As working mothers, we are always putting others first like, our children, husband, and parents but we will be the last that we take care, did you know that it is important to put ourselves first?There are many successful people like Kim Kiyosakai, in her book Rising Times, she mentioned that as women we need to be aware of ourselves, and understand our own strengths and you will be able to find your direction, calling, and purpose. Once you find your direction, you will get clarity and be able to help yourself to be financially independent. By doing so, you took care of yourself first and because of that you can now help and influence others. For those successful people, they are those who know their inner strengths well. And in order for us to get back our inner strength, we need to know ourselves again. Very often, we are too dependent on external factors or others to succeed. We entrust ourselves to others and hope that others can save us. This mentality will not work, and will cause you more harm as others may be their own motives or own life to live. We are our own life script writers or director , we are the only ones who can decide how we want to live. Even though we cannot choose who we are born to, but we can definitely decide our own future and route to take. When my son was about 4 years old, he liked to sing and play with the toy piano, so I felt that he had talent, and wanted to train him to play the piano properly. So I enrolled him in the piano class but however he did not like the class and didn't want to practise. I was angry and upset because I thought that he could become the pianist that I always wanted to be. I kept wondering why he did not follow what I have planned for him as I can obviously see that he can be a successful pianist. So after a few years later, I engaged again a piano teacher to coach him 1 to 1 at home. Things did not change for the better, in fact it got worse. I nagged at my son to practise his piano but he was unwilling. Both of us were feeling angry at each other. However I did not want to give up so I went to find alternative solutions. I chanced upon an article who talked about how parents should not entrust their dreams or wishes to their children, we are supposed to guide our children to their dreams and not to ours. After reading the article, I realised thatI wanted to be the pianist more than my son and if I really want to be then I should be the one taking lessons instead. I have lost myself, and purpose in life thinking that my son will be the one to realise my dreams. Last year, I attended a 2 day workshop on Women's event and happened to meet the host and speaker, Genecia Alluora. Through her sharing, I found out that she is the founder of the Soul Rich Woman community. When she shared about how she helped women to get their business online, I was curious as I have wanted to bring my current company online. So I signed up for her two-day Soul Rich Woman Blueprint Workshop and after the workshop, I learnt how I can bring my company to go online and I am convinced that she is the mentor I was to learn more from. Initially, I wanted to learn to scale my company however my mentor told me that in order, for my company to be successful online, I first need to know my inner strengths before helping the company. It got me thinking about how I have used to entrust my hopes, dreams or success to others. And under the mentorship , I began to discover myself consciously, deep dive into my inner feelings, and how I can become a better person with purpose, clarity and direction. I learnt to accept myself and after each coaching, while doing the homework given by Genecia, I became more aware of myself, and I also learnt more about myself as I dig deeper - What is my mission and what is my calling?It is important to find yourself and if you are unable to, you will need help by engaging a mentor who can help to dig out more from your inner self. When you are able to understand yourself well, you can discover your inner strengths and you will not blindly follow what the majority do, which may not be what you really want or your life purpose. Thanks to my mentor, I was able to appreciate the importance to get back my inner strength. To get back your inner strength, you will need to start with self love and self care first and you can refer to my previous episode to learn more.Once you are filled up with love and joy, then you can fully accept yourself and start to explore your strengths. If you want to talk about transforming your inner child, healing your relationships with yourself and money, connect with me through my Facebook and the link is in the show notes.Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/leeyongtehInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/d_t_l_y/Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/deon-teh-leeyong-573a0766/I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you on SELF PUNISHMENT & SELF REWARD

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