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Listen "Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity: Tools, Truths, and the Healing Journey"
Episode Synopsis
In this powerful and compassionate episode of Coached Soul, Dr. Steve Hudgins sits down with relationship expert Mr. Jay to unpack one of the most painful experiences couples face: infidelity and the work of rebuilding trust.
Together, they explore the emotional aftermath of betrayal - guilt, shame, confusion, self-doubt - and how these internal battles shape the healing process. Mr. Jay offers practical, actionable tools that anyone can begin using immediately, including creating a Needs Assessment List, setting consistent check-in dates, and learning how to show trustworthiness through sustained action rather than promises.
You’ll discover:
The difference between guilt and shame (and why it matters)
How to rebuild self-trust before rebuilding relational trust
Why structure and consistency are essential for recovery
How self-love becomes the foundation for emotional repair
How both partners can create patterns of safety, transparency, and honesty
Why healing after infidelity is not only possible—but probable with the right approach
Whether you’re at the painful beginning of discovery, struggling with ongoing triggers, or working to rebuild a connection with your partner, this episode offers a roadmap toward clarity, compassion, and genuine transformation.
🎧 Listen now to learn how to rebuild trust from the inside out and turn one of life’s deepest wounds into an opportunity for growth and reconnection
Key Moments:
01:14 "Infidelity: Moral Choice vs Hijack"
05:56 Healing and Rebuilding Trust
08:33 "Trusting Yourself: A Litmus Test"
13:11 Forgiveness Equals Self-Love
16:21 Unspoken Needs in Relationships
19:41 Post-Affair Recovery Essentials
22:32 "Healing Journey Check-In Strategy"
24:51 "Intimacy: Key to Overcoming Addiction"
About the guest :
Mr. Jay spent years helping people and couples navigate tough emotional terrain, even coaching many through panic attacks. He considered himself knowledgeable, though he’d never actually felt a panic attack himself. Everything changed after losing a close friend - one day laughing together over the phone, and just four days later, saying goodbye at the graveside. Only days after that, Mr. Jay woke up gripped by his first-ever panic attack. In that moment, all his expertise felt different; finally, he truly understood what his clients battled each day. This experience deepened his empathy and transformed his work, proving that lived experience brings irreplaceable understanding.
How to connect Mr. Jay :
Website : https://mrjayrelationshipcoach.com/
Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/MrJayRelationshipCoach/
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mrjayrelationshipcoach
Youtube : https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCih0uc3lMndCsm4BhKE8mCw/videos
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/mrjayrelationshipcoach/
About Coached Soul™:
Coached Soul™ is an empowering podcast hosted by Dr. Steve Hudgins, a mental health professional and author, and co-hosted by Kenya Whaley, a transformational therapeutic coach. With a focus on self-improvement, Dr. Steve covers many topics, including mental health, relationships, education, and more. He fearlessly tackles sensitive subjects like depression and anxiety, creating a safe space for open conversations. They offer valuable insights and lessons through interviews with guests who have overcome significant challenges. Coached Soul is not just a podcast but a supportive community that inspires personal growth and provides the necessary resources for transformation. Their expertise and genuine approach make Coached Soul a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their life.
For more details, visit https://coachedsoul.com/
Together, they explore the emotional aftermath of betrayal - guilt, shame, confusion, self-doubt - and how these internal battles shape the healing process. Mr. Jay offers practical, actionable tools that anyone can begin using immediately, including creating a Needs Assessment List, setting consistent check-in dates, and learning how to show trustworthiness through sustained action rather than promises.
You’ll discover:
The difference between guilt and shame (and why it matters)
How to rebuild self-trust before rebuilding relational trust
Why structure and consistency are essential for recovery
How self-love becomes the foundation for emotional repair
How both partners can create patterns of safety, transparency, and honesty
Why healing after infidelity is not only possible—but probable with the right approach
Whether you’re at the painful beginning of discovery, struggling with ongoing triggers, or working to rebuild a connection with your partner, this episode offers a roadmap toward clarity, compassion, and genuine transformation.
🎧 Listen now to learn how to rebuild trust from the inside out and turn one of life’s deepest wounds into an opportunity for growth and reconnection
Key Moments:
01:14 "Infidelity: Moral Choice vs Hijack"
05:56 Healing and Rebuilding Trust
08:33 "Trusting Yourself: A Litmus Test"
13:11 Forgiveness Equals Self-Love
16:21 Unspoken Needs in Relationships
19:41 Post-Affair Recovery Essentials
22:32 "Healing Journey Check-In Strategy"
24:51 "Intimacy: Key to Overcoming Addiction"
About the guest :
Mr. Jay spent years helping people and couples navigate tough emotional terrain, even coaching many through panic attacks. He considered himself knowledgeable, though he’d never actually felt a panic attack himself. Everything changed after losing a close friend - one day laughing together over the phone, and just four days later, saying goodbye at the graveside. Only days after that, Mr. Jay woke up gripped by his first-ever panic attack. In that moment, all his expertise felt different; finally, he truly understood what his clients battled each day. This experience deepened his empathy and transformed his work, proving that lived experience brings irreplaceable understanding.
How to connect Mr. Jay :
Website : https://mrjayrelationshipcoach.com/
Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/MrJayRelationshipCoach/
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mrjayrelationshipcoach
Youtube : https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCih0uc3lMndCsm4BhKE8mCw/videos
Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/mrjayrelationshipcoach/
About Coached Soul™:
Coached Soul™ is an empowering podcast hosted by Dr. Steve Hudgins, a mental health professional and author, and co-hosted by Kenya Whaley, a transformational therapeutic coach. With a focus on self-improvement, Dr. Steve covers many topics, including mental health, relationships, education, and more. He fearlessly tackles sensitive subjects like depression and anxiety, creating a safe space for open conversations. They offer valuable insights and lessons through interviews with guests who have overcome significant challenges. Coached Soul is not just a podcast but a supportive community that inspires personal growth and provides the necessary resources for transformation. Their expertise and genuine approach make Coached Soul a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their life.
For more details, visit https://coachedsoul.com/
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