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Episode Synopsis
Have we mistaken obedience for understanding?
In this episode of Rewriting the Rules, I’m exploring what I call “The Obedience Hangover” - that quiet, uneasy space we find ourselves in after years of teaching our dogs to behave, only to realise that something still feels disconnected.
We’ll talk about what really happens when dogs are praised for being calm, quiet, and compliant - and why that calmness can sometimes be a mask for emotional suppression and confusion.
Together, we’ll look at how obedience culture shaped so many of us - even the most ethical of trainers - and how to begin recovering from it with compassion, curiosity, and dialogue.
This isn’t about throwing away everything you’ve learned.
It’s about rediscovering the “why” behind it - rebuilding trust, confidence, and communication so your dog feels seen, not just well-behaved.
✨ In this episode:
• What the “obedience hangover” really means
• How good intentions can still lead to emotional suppression
• The difference between calmness and safety
• How to begin recovery through observation, empathy, and dialogue
• Replacing control with connection in everyday life
If you’ve ever felt that quiet voice inside saying “something about this doesn’t feel right”, this episode will help you listen to it - and to your dog - with a new kind of understanding.
💭 Because love isn’t about control. It’s about relationship.
Further resources
Free Learning:
What is the CDD method?
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Our YouTube Channel
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Bethany’s Facebook Page
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Free Rescue Course
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Our Programmes – Work With Bethany One To One
Our Online Courses
Bethany’s Books
Rewriting the Rules: The CDD Mentorship
Online Programmes
Surrey & Surrounding Areas- Programmes
Student Group
If you’re ready to step into something different - something kinder, wiser, and more meaningful - you’re in the right place.
Let’s raise dogs with dignity. Let’s teach through connection. Let’s begin the conversation.
In this episode of Rewriting the Rules, I’m exploring what I call “The Obedience Hangover” - that quiet, uneasy space we find ourselves in after years of teaching our dogs to behave, only to realise that something still feels disconnected.
We’ll talk about what really happens when dogs are praised for being calm, quiet, and compliant - and why that calmness can sometimes be a mask for emotional suppression and confusion.
Together, we’ll look at how obedience culture shaped so many of us - even the most ethical of trainers - and how to begin recovering from it with compassion, curiosity, and dialogue.
This isn’t about throwing away everything you’ve learned.
It’s about rediscovering the “why” behind it - rebuilding trust, confidence, and communication so your dog feels seen, not just well-behaved.
✨ In this episode:
• What the “obedience hangover” really means
• How good intentions can still lead to emotional suppression
• The difference between calmness and safety
• How to begin recovery through observation, empathy, and dialogue
• Replacing control with connection in everyday life
If you’ve ever felt that quiet voice inside saying “something about this doesn’t feel right”, this episode will help you listen to it - and to your dog - with a new kind of understanding.
💭 Because love isn’t about control. It’s about relationship.
Further resources
Free Learning:
What is the CDD method?
Our Free Facebook Group
Our YouTube Channel
Facebook Page
Bethany’s Facebook Page
Our Blog
Website
Free Rescue Course
Take The Next Step
Our Programmes – Work With Bethany One To One
Our Online Courses
Bethany’s Books
Rewriting the Rules: The CDD Mentorship
Online Programmes
Surrey & Surrounding Areas- Programmes
Student Group
If you’re ready to step into something different - something kinder, wiser, and more meaningful - you’re in the right place.
Let’s raise dogs with dignity. Let’s teach through connection. Let’s begin the conversation.
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