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Please check out Part 2 of my conversation with Marty
Check out Jeremy’s latest podcast on learning, coping, and surviving as an Alzheimer’s Caregiver by listening on “Apple Podcasts” or “Google Podcasts” or read below for 3 Lessons From the Life of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver.
#50 – According to the 2021 Alzheimer’s Disease Facts and Figures Report, an estimated 6.2 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer’s dementia in 2021.
Alzheimer’s not only makes life challenging for those who are affected by it directly, but also for the caregivers who are looking after their loved ones.
One of these caregivers is Marty Schreiber, former governor of Wisconsin, a business owner, author of My Two Elaines, and this episode’s guest. Marty has been a caregiver for his wife Elaine, an Alzheimer’s patient, for the past 18 years.
In this 50th episode special, Jeremy Keil speaks with Marty to help Alzheimer’s caregivers learn, cope, and survive through this particular life challenge. Marty shares his emotionally overwhelming story as a caregiver to help you avoid the mistakes he made and tackle stress and anxiety while improving the life of both you and your loved one.
Marty discusses:
Why ignorance of Alzheimer’s is worse than the disease itself
How to join your loved one’s world to bring more happiness to the both of you
Moments of joy that you can cherish with your loved one every day
The importance of keeping your own health in check as a caregiver
Letters from Elaine’s diaries that will completely change your perspective as a caregiver
And more
3 Lessons From the Life of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver
By being vulnerable and sharing his story, Marty aims to help as many caregivers as possible to avoid the mistakes that he made, so that they can take better care of both themselves and their loved ones.
Here are 3 lessons from Marty’s decade-plus journey as a caregiver to help you tackle the challenges that follow Alzheimer’s.
Read on!
Understand That Ignorance is Worse Than the Disease
According to Marty, the only thing worse than Alzheimer’s is the ignorance of the disease itself.
Ignorance by the medical profession. Ignorance by the caregivers. And to some extent, even ignorance by the patients themselves (especially during the early stages of the disease.)
To overcome this, you need to understand where the real challenges lie and address them before it’s too late.
If you fail to do so and solely focus on treating the disease, you might end up spending hundreds of thousands of dollars and still be left with frustration.
Plus, you might miss out on enjoying the daily moments of happiness with your loved ones.
All of this can also snowball into depression, anxiety, and unacknowledged grieving for the caregiver.
Having a better understanding of Alzheimer’s and the associated challenges will help you make better decisions. (You can find several useful resources by visiting the Alzheimer’s Association.)
Enter Your Loved One’s World
Marty observed that the more he tried to keep his wife Elaine in his world, trying to pull her back into reality, the more difficult it became to cope with Alzheimer’s. It caused discomfort and disappointment for them both.
So, what did he do? He joined her in HER world.
In other words, he let go of the person that she was before and started embracing the person that she had become.
Here’s an example of “joining her world” that Marty shared on the podcast:
Once, Elaine asked Marty about how her parents were doing. She had no recollection of the fact that they had already passed away.
Marty decided to bring her back to reality and so he told her the truth. This led to utter shock and disbelief for Elaine, who immediately started worrying that she probably didn’t get to say goodbye, much less attend the funeral.
Seeing her cry, Marty promised himself that he would never let her go through this moment again.
Now, whenever Elaine asks about her parents, Marty reassures her that they are doing fine. This is him joining her world, and it ultimately leads to more happiness and less stress for the both of them!
Keep Your Own Health and Well-Being In Check
Marty found a series of notes and diaries that Elaine had been keeping since her early Alzheimer’s diagnosis.
Going through them, he realized two things:
Sometimes, caregivers don’t really understand the courage that it takes to be diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and to continue to live through the daily adversities.
Caregivers often underestimate how important they are to their loved ones. In a way, they’re their lifelines.
As their lifeline, you have to be strong. So take better care of your own health.
Being a caregiver is the toughest job in the world. What makes it so difficult is having to see your loved one die a little bit every day.
But Marty suggests that you should never stop looking after your own health and well-being. Get enough sleep, have a healthy diet, exercise regularly, and don’t hesitate to ask for help when you need it.
If you’re staying healthy yourself, you can take better care of your loved one!
In fact, in one of her pieces, Elaine writes addressing Marty, “I’d be so lost without you. So please continue to take good care of yourself for me as well as for you.”
Please check out Part 2 of my conversation with Marty.
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If you want to follow the complete journey of Martin and Elaine Schreiber fighting Alzheimer’s together, check out My Two Elaines: Learning, Coping, and Surviving as an Alzheimer’s Caregiver.
If you have any questions regarding how you can achieve your ideal retirement, feel free to contact us!
Resources:
My Two Elaines: Learning, Coping, and Surviving as an Alzheimer’s Caregiver
Thrivent
Caring.com
Elaine’s Home Memory Care
Lutheran Hope & Harwood Place
Alzheimer’s Association
LinkedIn: Mary Ann Clairday, Senior Consultant at My Two Elaines
3 Things You Should Know Before Choosing A Financial Advisor
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Subscribe
Connect With Jeremy Keil:
[email protected]
(262) 333-8353
Keil Financial Partners
LinkedIn: Jeremy Keil
Facebook: Jeremy Keil
LinkedIn: Keil Financial Partners
About Our Guest:
Former Wisconsin Gov. Martin J. Schreiber is an award-winning crusader for Alzheimer’s caregivers and persons with dementia. Reaching audiences nationwide at live events and via media, he uses humor and compassion to share lessons from his ongoing, decade-plus journey as caregiver. Prior to writing My Two Elaines – and while he still cared for his wife at home – Schreiber helped the Alzheimer’s Association launch Operation: Stronger Together. The multi-year awareness program initiated in 2015 has helped the Southeastern Wisconsin Chapter connect record numbers of families to education and resources that are vital to successful caregiving.
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Disclosures
Videos/Podcasts/Blogs (media) published prior to June 30, 2025, were recorded and approved while the advisor was affiliated with Thrivent Advisor Network. These media reflect the advisor’s views and interpretations at that time. The information and disclosures contained in those media were believed to be accurate and complete as of the date of recording, but may not reflect current market conditions or Alongside, LLC, policies.
All content is provided for educational purposes only and does not constitute personalized investment advice. Read below for current disclosures and potential conflicts of interest.
This media is provided for informational and educational purposes only and does not consider the investment objectives, financial situation, or particular needs of any consumer. Nothing in this program should be construed as investment, legal, or tax advice, nor as a recommendation to buy, sell, or hold any security or to adopt any investment strategy.
The views and opinions expressed are those of the host and any guest, current as of the date of recording, and may change without notice as market, political or economic conditions evolve. All investments involve risk, including the possible loss of principal. Past Performance is no guarantee of future results.
Legal & Tax Disclosure
Consumers should consult their own qualified attorney, CPA, or other professional advisor regarding their specific legal and tax situations.
Advisor Disclosures
Alongside, LLC, doing business as Keil Financial Partners, is an SEC-registered investment adviser. Registration does not imply a certain level of skill or expertise. Advisory services are delivered through the Alongside, LLC platform. Keil Financial Partners is independent, not owned or operated by Alongside, LLC.
Additional information about Alongside, LLC – including its services, fees and any material conflicts of interest – can be found at https://adviserinfo.sec.gov/firm/summary/333587 or by requesting Form ADV Part 2A.
The content of this media should not be reproduced or redistributed without the firm’s written consent. Any trademarks or service marks mentioned belong to their respective owners and are used for identification purposes only.
For important disclosures visit: https://keilfp.com/disclosures/
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Check out Jeremy’s latest podcast on learning, coping, and surviving as an Alzheimer’s Caregiver by listening on “Apple Podcasts” or “Google Podcasts” or read below for 3 Lessons From the Life of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver.
#50 – According to the 2021 Alzheimer’s Disease Facts and Figures Report, an estimated 6.2 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer’s dementia in 2021.
Alzheimer’s not only makes life challenging for those who are affected by it directly, but also for the caregivers who are looking after their loved ones.
One of these caregivers is Marty Schreiber, former governor of Wisconsin, a business owner, author of My Two Elaines, and this episode’s guest. Marty has been a caregiver for his wife Elaine, an Alzheimer’s patient, for the past 18 years.
In this 50th episode special, Jeremy Keil speaks with Marty to help Alzheimer’s caregivers learn, cope, and survive through this particular life challenge. Marty shares his emotionally overwhelming story as a caregiver to help you avoid the mistakes he made and tackle stress and anxiety while improving the life of both you and your loved one.
Marty discusses:
Why ignorance of Alzheimer’s is worse than the disease itself
How to join your loved one’s world to bring more happiness to the both of you
Moments of joy that you can cherish with your loved one every day
The importance of keeping your own health in check as a caregiver
Letters from Elaine’s diaries that will completely change your perspective as a caregiver
And more
3 Lessons From the Life of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver
By being vulnerable and sharing his story, Marty aims to help as many caregivers as possible to avoid the mistakes that he made, so that they can take better care of both themselves and their loved ones.
Here are 3 lessons from Marty’s decade-plus journey as a caregiver to help you tackle the challenges that follow Alzheimer’s.
Read on!
Understand That Ignorance is Worse Than the Disease
According to Marty, the only thing worse than Alzheimer’s is the ignorance of the disease itself.
Ignorance by the medical profession. Ignorance by the caregivers. And to some extent, even ignorance by the patients themselves (especially during the early stages of the disease.)
To overcome this, you need to understand where the real challenges lie and address them before it’s too late.
If you fail to do so and solely focus on treating the disease, you might end up spending hundreds of thousands of dollars and still be left with frustration.
Plus, you might miss out on enjoying the daily moments of happiness with your loved ones.
All of this can also snowball into depression, anxiety, and unacknowledged grieving for the caregiver.
Having a better understanding of Alzheimer’s and the associated challenges will help you make better decisions. (You can find several useful resources by visiting the Alzheimer’s Association.)
Enter Your Loved One’s World
Marty observed that the more he tried to keep his wife Elaine in his world, trying to pull her back into reality, the more difficult it became to cope with Alzheimer’s. It caused discomfort and disappointment for them both.
So, what did he do? He joined her in HER world.
In other words, he let go of the person that she was before and started embracing the person that she had become.
Here’s an example of “joining her world” that Marty shared on the podcast:
Once, Elaine asked Marty about how her parents were doing. She had no recollection of the fact that they had already passed away.
Marty decided to bring her back to reality and so he told her the truth. This led to utter shock and disbelief for Elaine, who immediately started worrying that she probably didn’t get to say goodbye, much less attend the funeral.
Seeing her cry, Marty promised himself that he would never let her go through this moment again.
Now, whenever Elaine asks about her parents, Marty reassures her that they are doing fine. This is him joining her world, and it ultimately leads to more happiness and less stress for the both of them!
Keep Your Own Health and Well-Being In Check
Marty found a series of notes and diaries that Elaine had been keeping since her early Alzheimer’s diagnosis.
Going through them, he realized two things:
Sometimes, caregivers don’t really understand the courage that it takes to be diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and to continue to live through the daily adversities.
Caregivers often underestimate how important they are to their loved ones. In a way, they’re their lifelines.
As their lifeline, you have to be strong. So take better care of your own health.
Being a caregiver is the toughest job in the world. What makes it so difficult is having to see your loved one die a little bit every day.
But Marty suggests that you should never stop looking after your own health and well-being. Get enough sleep, have a healthy diet, exercise regularly, and don’t hesitate to ask for help when you need it.
If you’re staying healthy yourself, you can take better care of your loved one!
In fact, in one of her pieces, Elaine writes addressing Marty, “I’d be so lost without you. So please continue to take good care of yourself for me as well as for you.”
Please check out Part 2 of my conversation with Marty.
____________________________________________________________________________
If you want to follow the complete journey of Martin and Elaine Schreiber fighting Alzheimer’s together, check out My Two Elaines: Learning, Coping, and Surviving as an Alzheimer’s Caregiver.
If you have any questions regarding how you can achieve your ideal retirement, feel free to contact us!
Resources:
My Two Elaines: Learning, Coping, and Surviving as an Alzheimer’s Caregiver
Thrivent
Caring.com
Elaine’s Home Memory Care
Lutheran Hope & Harwood Place
Alzheimer’s Association
LinkedIn: Mary Ann Clairday, Senior Consultant at My Two Elaines
3 Things You Should Know Before Choosing A Financial Advisor
6 Questions Retirees Aren’t Asking But Should Be
Subscribe
Connect With Jeremy Keil:
[email protected]
(262) 333-8353
Keil Financial Partners
LinkedIn: Jeremy Keil
Facebook: Jeremy Keil
LinkedIn: Keil Financial Partners
About Our Guest:
Former Wisconsin Gov. Martin J. Schreiber is an award-winning crusader for Alzheimer’s caregivers and persons with dementia. Reaching audiences nationwide at live events and via media, he uses humor and compassion to share lessons from his ongoing, decade-plus journey as caregiver. Prior to writing My Two Elaines – and while he still cared for his wife at home – Schreiber helped the Alzheimer’s Association launch Operation: Stronger Together. The multi-year awareness program initiated in 2015 has helped the Southeastern Wisconsin Chapter connect record numbers of families to education and resources that are vital to successful caregiving.
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Disclosures
Videos/Podcasts/Blogs (media) published prior to June 30, 2025, were recorded and approved while the advisor was affiliated with Thrivent Advisor Network. These media reflect the advisor’s views and interpretations at that time. The information and disclosures contained in those media were believed to be accurate and complete as of the date of recording, but may not reflect current market conditions or Alongside, LLC, policies.
All content is provided for educational purposes only and does not constitute personalized investment advice. Read below for current disclosures and potential conflicts of interest.
This media is provided for informational and educational purposes only and does not consider the investment objectives, financial situation, or particular needs of any consumer. Nothing in this program should be construed as investment, legal, or tax advice, nor as a recommendation to buy, sell, or hold any security or to adopt any investment strategy.
The views and opinions expressed are those of the host and any guest, current as of the date of recording, and may change without notice as market, political or economic conditions evolve. All investments involve risk, including the possible loss of principal. Past Performance is no guarantee of future results.
Legal & Tax Disclosure
Consumers should consult their own qualified attorney, CPA, or other professional advisor regarding their specific legal and tax situations.
Advisor Disclosures
Alongside, LLC, doing business as Keil Financial Partners, is an SEC-registered investment adviser. Registration does not imply a certain level of skill or expertise. Advisory services are delivered through the Alongside, LLC platform. Keil Financial Partners is independent, not owned or operated by Alongside, LLC.
Additional information about Alongside, LLC – including its services, fees and any material conflicts of interest – can be found at https://adviserinfo.sec.gov/firm/summary/333587 or by requesting Form ADV Part 2A.
The content of this media should not be reproduced or redistributed without the firm’s written consent. Any trademarks or service marks mentioned belong to their respective owners and are used for identification purposes only.
For important disclosures visit: https://keilfp.com/disclosures/
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