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Episode Synopsis
Becoming a father, a dad, can be a painful experience. One in 10 men experience anxiety or depression within the first 6 months of the birth of their baby.
In today’s society, there is still a stigma around men talking about their mental health, opening up vulnerably about their emotional experience of fatherhood.
In this episode, I speak to Elliott Rae about his experience of PTSD following the traumatic birth of his daughter (trigger warning), and how this led him to his purpose of making an impact around fathers’ mental health, gender equality, masculinity and representing a diverse picture of fathers.
Elliott Rae is the founder of MusicFootballFatherhood (MFF), the parenting platform for dads to share the ups and downs of parenting and promote a positive representation of diverse fatherhood. Elliott’s first book is called ‘DAD: untold stories of fatherhood, love, mental health and masculinity’.
BBC article: ‘I got PTSD after witnessing my daughter’s birth’ - BBC News
Book: DAD: Untold stories of fatherhood, love, mental health and masculinity
(DAD: Untold stories of Fatherhood, Love, Mental Health and Masculinity: Amazon.co.uk: MusicFootballFatherhood, Elliott, Rae: 9781527290242: Books )
www.musicfootballfatherhood.com
Insta: @mffonline_, @iamelliottrae
We cover:
PTSD from a traumatic birth
Lack of support for new dads
Avoiding talking about it
Accepting what happened
The need for community groups for dads
Screening for mental health problems in fathers
Liberation from toxic masculinity
“Boys don’t cry” - socialised pressure
Black fatherhood, diversity and inclusion
A wake up call around workaholism
Being present in the moment
Order my book, The Lasting Connection, here
To spend 90 days to develop love and compassion for yourself, join the online course, The Compassionate Couple, here
Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk
Instagram: @the_thomas_connection
Facebook: www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection
Pause Purpose Play Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/pausepurposeplay
This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media
In today’s society, there is still a stigma around men talking about their mental health, opening up vulnerably about their emotional experience of fatherhood.
In this episode, I speak to Elliott Rae about his experience of PTSD following the traumatic birth of his daughter (trigger warning), and how this led him to his purpose of making an impact around fathers’ mental health, gender equality, masculinity and representing a diverse picture of fathers.
Elliott Rae is the founder of MusicFootballFatherhood (MFF), the parenting platform for dads to share the ups and downs of parenting and promote a positive representation of diverse fatherhood. Elliott’s first book is called ‘DAD: untold stories of fatherhood, love, mental health and masculinity’.
BBC article: ‘I got PTSD after witnessing my daughter’s birth’ - BBC News
Book: DAD: Untold stories of fatherhood, love, mental health and masculinity
(DAD: Untold stories of Fatherhood, Love, Mental Health and Masculinity: Amazon.co.uk: MusicFootballFatherhood, Elliott, Rae: 9781527290242: Books )
www.musicfootballfatherhood.com
Insta: @mffonline_, @iamelliottrae
We cover:
PTSD from a traumatic birth
Lack of support for new dads
Avoiding talking about it
Accepting what happened
The need for community groups for dads
Screening for mental health problems in fathers
Liberation from toxic masculinity
“Boys don’t cry” - socialised pressure
Black fatherhood, diversity and inclusion
A wake up call around workaholism
Being present in the moment
Order my book, The Lasting Connection, here
To spend 90 days to develop love and compassion for yourself, join the online course, The Compassionate Couple, here
Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk
Instagram: @the_thomas_connection
Facebook: www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection
Pause Purpose Play Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/pausepurposeplay
This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media
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