Listen "S1E24 - Are Gifts Allowed in Courtship?"
Episode Synopsis
Should you be concerned if your fianc(é)e is waiting for both of you to be married before (s)he starts giving you anything? That's the summary of the question we consider this week. It comes in from Bimbo and was directed to Anu. Bimbo asks:
"Ma, my fiance and I have been in a relationship for a few years. The nearer we get to our wedding, the more I'm having to feel more concerned about an issue but I am not sure if I'm overthinking it. My primary love language is GIFTS and he is aware of this. While he used to do this at the beginning of our relationship, he has stopped doing it for a long while now. Initially, I overlooked it since I'm aware he didn't have much at that time, but now he has the means but still wouldn't give. I confronted him about it recently and he said he can never give his fiancée money because that is not in the bible. He said that he can only take care of me when we marry, taking full responsibility as my husband. I was shocked when I heard this, but if I may ask, what are your thoughts about this?"
We discussed this from different angles in this episode and concluded with a prayer for Bimbo and her fiance. Whether you are in a relationship or yet to be in one, this will be insightful. We pray that the episode blesses you.
REFERENCED IN THE EPISODE
✥ Not Alone Today Podcast - Episode 003 | "Pre-Courtship, Courtship, and Pre-Wedding FEARS" available here: https://www.josephkolawole.org/notalonetoday/episode/dbfdea73/003-pre-courtship-courtship-and-pre-wedding-fears
✥ Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages
OTHER RESOURCES TO CHECK OUT
You will find the links to other resources from Joseph and Anu here: https://josephola.disha.page/
"Ma, my fiance and I have been in a relationship for a few years. The nearer we get to our wedding, the more I'm having to feel more concerned about an issue but I am not sure if I'm overthinking it. My primary love language is GIFTS and he is aware of this. While he used to do this at the beginning of our relationship, he has stopped doing it for a long while now. Initially, I overlooked it since I'm aware he didn't have much at that time, but now he has the means but still wouldn't give. I confronted him about it recently and he said he can never give his fiancée money because that is not in the bible. He said that he can only take care of me when we marry, taking full responsibility as my husband. I was shocked when I heard this, but if I may ask, what are your thoughts about this?"
We discussed this from different angles in this episode and concluded with a prayer for Bimbo and her fiance. Whether you are in a relationship or yet to be in one, this will be insightful. We pray that the episode blesses you.
REFERENCED IN THE EPISODE
✥ Not Alone Today Podcast - Episode 003 | "Pre-Courtship, Courtship, and Pre-Wedding FEARS" available here: https://www.josephkolawole.org/notalonetoday/episode/dbfdea73/003-pre-courtship-courtship-and-pre-wedding-fears
✥ Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages
OTHER RESOURCES TO CHECK OUT
You will find the links to other resources from Joseph and Anu here: https://josephola.disha.page/
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