Send us a text🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:I now recognize Cluster B relationships as “Ponzi schemes.” They start with intense love bombing, mirroring, and promises that feel tailor-made to me.I understand that early “returns” in these relationships are illusions. These are funded by my own emotional investment, not a genuine connection.I’m aware of intermittent reinforcement used to keep me invested. This involves alternating cruelty with small acts of kindness that manipulate my emotions.I accept that Cluster B relationships lack real equity, respect, and reciprocity. This leads to my inevitable emotional collapse.I acknowledge that I was targeted in these relationships and am not foolish. Cluster B personalities expertly exploit my hope, trust, and vulnerability.I’m focusing on my recovery by grieving the lost dream. I’m learning to forgive myself and rebuild with self-love, healthy boundaries, and authentic connections.🔍 SummaryThe Cluster B Ponzi SchemeI’ve come to draw an analogy between Cluster B relationships and Ponzi schemes. I describe how these relationships begin with “love bombing,” promising incredible connection. Like a Ponzi scheme, the initial investment feels rewarding, but is unsustainable. I reflect on my own 23-year marriage as a personal example.Initial Investment: Love Bombing and MirroringCluster Bs swept me off my feet, mirroring my values and making me feel like I’d found “the one.” This felt custom-made, but I now see it was a calculated strategy to get me to invest emotionally. Instead of money, I invested my heart, soul, time, and identity. The early returns seemed incredible, making me feel cherished and seen.Intermittent Reinforcement: Keeping Me InvestedThe initial “returns” weren’t real and were fueled by my willingness to invest further. As the relationship progressed, the love bombing decreased, and the mask slipped. I started working harder to regain the initial affection, leading to intermittent reinforcement. This involved alternating cruelty with breadcrumbs of kindness, hooking me deeper by creating hope for a return to the initial idealization.The Inevitable Collapse and Its AftermathLike all Ponzi schemes, my Cluster B relationship eventually collapsed due to the lack of real equity, authentic love, respect, or reciprocity. The returns were just illusions. The collapse left me emotionally bankrupt, questioning everything I believed. I was reluctant to accept the collapse of my marriage, yet I now recognize its inauthenticity.Understanding Why I Fell For It and My RecoveryI fell for this scheme because I craved love and connection. Cluster B personalities are experts at exploiting my hope and vulnerability, especially given my background of conditional love. My recovery involves accepting that what I thought was real wasn’t, grieving the lost dream, and forgiving myself for buying into the illusion. I’m rebuilding my life with self-love, healthy boundaries, and authentic connections, prioritizing investing in myself and relationships based on honesty and kindness.Support the show

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