Welcome back to Modern Financial Wellness! In this episode, we tackle one of the biggest pain points for couples everywhere: how to work as a team around money. Managing finances together isn’t just about budgeting and spreadsheets—it’s about trust, fairness, teamwork, and building a life that supports both partners’ dreams. Today’s conversation dives deep into the emotional and practical sides of money and relationships, with plenty of stories and actionable advice for anyone sharing their financial life with someone else.I’m joined by the dynamic husband-wife team, Douglas Boneparth and Heather Boneparth of Bona Fide Wealth. Douglas, a nationally recognized financial advisor based in New York City, frequently shares his insights in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and CNBC. Heather, after a decade in law and insurance, now directs business and legal affairs at their firm and writes about money, relationships, and modern family life for outlets like CNBC and The Skimm. They’re also the co-authors of the fantastic new book Money Together, which offers couples a compassionate roadmap for building solid financial foundations as a team.Episode Overview: In this episode, we talk about:Why so many couples have the wrong money conversations—and what to focus on insteadThe roles of fairness, trust, and teamwork in a healthy financial partnershipPower dynamics, especially when one partner is more financially savvy or earns moreReal stories from Douglas Boneparth and Heather Boneparth's marriage and experience working with couples (including some of my own as a financial planner!)Compromise, contribution, and redefining roles as careers and family life evolveWhy time is just as valuable as money—and should be part of the financial conversationHow to start better money conversations with your partner, with helpful questions to guide the way5 Key Takeaways:Healthy Money Conversations Start With Self-Awareness and Empathy.Heather and Douglas emphasize that it's crucial to understand your own background and beliefs about money before you can communicate effectively with your partner. Knowing each other’s stories—the “why” behind the numbers—builds empathy and prevents misunderstandings.Power Dynamics and Confidence Matter.Often, one partner feels less confident handling finances, especially when the other is a financial expert or higher earner. Heather shares how easy it is for the less-involved partner to lose confidence and why each person still needs ownership and awareness of the family’s finances, regardless of who does the technical work.Contributions Aren’t Just About Income.Douglas admits falling into the trap of measuring his household contribution by money earned, but both learned—and model for clients—that taking on the invisible load (managing schedules, carpool, emotional labor, etc.) is equally valuable. Healthy partnerships recognize time and effort as key currencies.Your Money System Must Evolve With Your Life.What worked for you as a couple at one stage may not work later. Heather shares her story of shifting from a stable corporate job to joining the family firm and how openly renegotiating roles and responsibilities can save a relationship from resentment as circumstances change.Regular, Compassionate Conversations Are a Game-Changer.The value of Money Together is in the questions it prompts, not a one-size-fits-all solution. Start small: discuss values, dreams, and contributions. The book’s questions at the end of each chapter provide a jumping-off point for honest discussions, opening the door to greater fairness, trust, and progress together.Resources...

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