Today is the first episode in a two-part series about keeping your kids safe. In this episode, Kelly reviews the crisis of violence in schools and discusses ways to keep your children safe in an unpredictable world. Namely, she suggests three ways to create a safe space for your children… and it doesn’t actually start at home!Three Elements to Creating a Safe Space - Even in the CarConnectionYour car after school is a safe space for your kids to connect with you.Connection - not control - is core to a healthy relationship.Without connection to their parents, kids do not feel safe.From ages 3-8, kids are wired to connect with their parents: this is how lifelong trust is built.Kids will try to connect with you in positive ways, like hugging, or negative ways, like misbehavior, just to try to feel safe.Accept and ExpectYou will get your child’s worst: the unloading of emotions and energy.A child who is doing well in school is exhausted by the effort and needs a release.Let yourself be a safe space for them to release their pent-up energy and emotions: you are unconditional love to them.Unloading is okay - disrespect is not.Model unloading overflow in a healthy way for them: Ex. Taking a walk so you don’t lose your own temper.Dialogue about EmotionsTalk to them about all of the emotions, positive or negative.Process your own emotions out loud, so they can hear you do it in a healthy way.Be honest if you’re upset, in order to normalize that emotion for them.Show them that emotions are neutral: the actions are either good or bad.Check out Brene Brown’s book, Atlas of the Heart.If parents don’t acknowledge their own angry feelings, kids won’t feel safe to express their negative emotions to their parents.The Empowered Parent: Monthly Membership ProgramCheck out Kelly’s websitePlease share this episode!YouTubeApple PodcastsSpotify

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