• Launch of "Love Thy Neighbor" with Dan, Tom, and Colette Fehr • Banter about walking to Publix and Colette teasing Dan • Colette attends "Pitch a Friend" Orlando dating event and explains its PowerPoint pitch format • Discussion of dating app burnout, swipe fatigue, and loss of real connection • Colette's "Red Flag or Green Flag" game and insights on in-person chemistry • Jokes about people falling for the presenter instead of the friend pitched • Commentary on gendered dating perceptions and differing timelines • Emphasis on body language, vibe, and physical chemistry over screens • Comparison of "vibes" vs. science in attraction • Event at Gravity Tap Room; next one Dec 3 at Primrose Lanes (famous hot dogs) • Shift to sex talk and how men/women view dating motives differently • Dan values connection; Tom admits physical attraction drives men • Discussion of laughter as intimacy and thrill of early dating • Colette notes women often prefer emotional intimacy before sex • Ghosting and casual culture seen as emotionally damaging • Online dating breeds cynicism and "disposable" mindset • Digital judgment linked to low self-esteem and loneliness • Women face harsher appearance scrutiny; men struggle to show vulnerability • Conversation on male emotional suppression and biology-driven desire • Dating apps enable convenience over effort, leading to isolation or incel behavior • Men mocked for liking marriage; hosts defend partnership and family life • "Good partner > happy single > toxic relationship" • Example of friend thriving after self-work without a partner • Humans need connection; quality bonds improve longevity • Concerns about AI/robots replacing real relationships • Listener email: advice seems to blame men • Colette clarifies relationships are co-created; both share responsibility • Discussion of pursuer–withdrawer dynamics and mental load imbalance • Tips: team mindset, clear asks, "I" statements, avoid tit-for-tat • Men urged to state needs constructively and set boundaries • Example: request chores or phone-free dinners for reconnection • Partners show love by attending unexciting events for each other • Many men feel blamed; communication must be mindful, not reactive • Colette offers free communication scripts on her site • Emotional awareness isn't taught—requires effort and patience • Therapy reveals both partners need reflection and growth • Advice: express feelings without attacking or demanding change • Women often burn out from not feeling heard; checked-out partners rarely return • Most men prefer commitment once emotionally invested • Tom shares learning affection through small gestures like flowers • Upbringing made him reserved, but consistency built trust • Small daily acts strengthen connection over time • Colette praises Tom's effort and suggests habit-stacking affection • Gentle touch meets emotional needs and prevents "starvation" • Humor about forced hugs and awkward affection • Affection styles differ; goal is balance, not perfection • Colette urges small, steady contact—hand-holding or brief hugs • Joke about withholding affection as "emotional terrorism" • Reminder: send questions to [email protected] • Plug for Colette's book The Cost of Quiet and upcoming audiobook • Light banter and wrap-up about audiobooks and reading ### **Social Media:**   [Website](https://tomanddan.com/) | [Twitter](https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive) | [Facebook](https://facebook.com/amediocretime) | [Instagram](https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive) **Where to Find the Show:**   [Apple Podcasts](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682) | [Google Podcasts](https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2FtZWRpb2NyZXRpbWUvcG9kY2FzdC54bWw) | [TuneIn](https://tunein.com/podcasts/Comedy/A-Mediocre-Time-p364156/) **The Tom & Dan Radio Show on Real Radio 104.1:**   [Apple Podcasts](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-corporate-time/id975258990) | [Google Podcasts](https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2Fjb3Jwb3JhdGV0aW1lL3BvZGNhc3QueG1s) | [TuneIn](https://tunein.com/podcasts/Comedy/A-Corporate-Time-p1038501/) **Exclusive Content:** [Join BDM](https://tomanddan.com/registration) **Merch:** [Shop Tom & Dan](https://tomanddan.myshopify.com/)

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