"What if the loneliness you feel in your marriage is actually preparing you for the solitude that could set you free?"Pat Fenner thought she knew how marriages were supposed to end. After 37 years, the slow drift into loneliness felt normal. But when divorce blindsided her, this mother of five discovered something unexpected: she had been lonely even when married. What followed was a journey from feeling like a "hard little kernel" to coming home to herself in ways she never imagined. Pat's story challenges everything we think we know about fighting for relationships versus fighting for ourselves."I absolutely love my life right now," Pat declares—words she couldn't have said for fifteen years. Through raw honesty, she reveals the red flags she missed, the fear that kept her trapped, and the surprising difference between solitude and loneliness. Her advice? Stop thinking marriage gets worse with time. Sometimes the very thing we think will destroy our relationship—standing up for ourselves—might actually save it. For those facing gray divorce or feeling alone in their marriage, Pat's journey offers both hope and practical wisdom.Pat Fenner is a podcast producer, author, and advocate for those navigating gray divorce, Her book "Rebuilding Your Life After a Gray Divorce: A Path to Healing, Joy, and Significance" features her signature STRENGTHS framework designed to help women savor simplicity, rebuild trust, and embrace their future. Pat also produces the podcast "Silver Women, Bright Future," exploring resilience and personal growth through real-life stories and biblical wisdom. Having transformed her own pain into purpose, Pat proves that life doesn't end post-divorce—it transforms into something even more authentic and joyful.About The Show: The Life in Transition, hosted by Art Blanchford focuses on making the most of the changes we’re given every week. Art has been through hundreds of transitions in his life. Many have been difficult, but all have led to a depth and richness he could never have imagined. On the podcast Art explores how to create more love and joy in life, no matter what transitions we go through. Art is married to his lifelong partner, a proud father of three and a long-time adventurer and global business executive. He is the founder and leader of the Midlife Transition Mastery Community. Learn more about the MLTM Community here: www.lifeintransition.online.In This Episode: (00:00) Pat's Divorce Story Begins(03:50) Marriage Red Flags and Warning Signs(09:04) The Phone Problem in Relationships(16:42) MidLife Transition Mastery Ad(19:11) When Did You Know It Was Over?(28:49) Life After Divorce - Growth and Healing(34:19) Building Authentic New Relationships(46:55) Transition Mastery Coaching Ad(49:47) Advice for Those Facing Gray Divorce(58:17) Journaling as a Self-Discovery ToolLike, subscribe, and send us your comments and feedback.Resources:Pat Fenner Website: https://www.patfenner.me/Gray Divorce Resources: patfenner.me/gray-divorceBook: "Rebuilding Your Life After A Gray Divorce: A Path to Healing, Significance and Joy" (Amazon)Email Art BlanchfordLife in Transition WebsiteLife in Transition on IGLife in Transition on FBJoin Our Community: https://www.lifeintransition.online/My new book PURPOSEFUL LIVING is out now. Order it now: https://www.amazon.com/PURPOSEFUL-LIVING-Wisdom-Coming-Complex/dp/1963913922Explore our website https://lifeintransitionpodcast.com/ for more in-depth information and resources, and to download the 8-step guide to mastering mid-life transitions.The views and opinions expressed on the Life In Transition podcast are solely those of the author and guests and should not be attributed to any other individual or entity. This podcast is an independent production of Life In Transition Podcast, and the podcast production is an original work of the author. All rights of ownership and reproduction are retained—copyright 2025. 

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