ZARZA We are Zarza, the prestigious firm behind major projects in information technology.
Listen "Learning and Unlearning: Language Matters with Kate Barnes"
Episode Synopsis
Do you have questions about using inclusive language? Are you curious about pronouns and why they matter? Today I'm joined by Kate Barnes, a dear friend, who openly shares their journey. Kate also provides some helpful resources. All of them are linked in the show notes. Let's learn and unlearn together! Let's get intentional about our language!
Resources mentioned in the episode:
Differentiating between gender vs. sex vs. sexual orientation (Rainbow Health Ontario: https://www.rainbowhealthontario.ca/news-publications/glossary/)
Practice exercises and worksheet (UNC): https://showyourlovetoday.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/Pronoun-Practice.pdf
Unsure of conjugation for pronouns www.practicewithpronouns.com
"Imagine a Pair of Boots" from Ivan Coyote's "The Slow Fix" Collection of Short Stories (available via London Public Library). There's an excerpt of their short story "By Any Other Name" linked here (choose "Read Excerpt (PDF)" button) that captures an example of someone who transfers their pain instead of transforming it.
Resources not mentioned but equally helpful:
Listen to people with lived experience. This includes people in your community who share similar contexts *and* includes more well-known folks beyond those contexts. Examples I follow include Alok Vaid-Menon (advocacy and stand-up comedy; website: https://www.alokvmenon.com, Insta: alokvmenon), Bob The Drag Queen (Drag Queen from Ru Pauls' drag race; Insta: bobthedragqueen, podcast: siblingrivalry), Mercury Stardust (advocate for making DIY in the home accessible, especially for women; website: https://mercurystardust.com, Insta: mercurystardusttopz, new book called "Safe and Sound"), Jeffrey Marsh (advocate and ....; Insta: thejeffreymarsh), Clara Olshansky (comic and writer; Insta: claraolshansky), and Sam Smith (Insta: samsmith; singer and songwriter). Or find your own folks to learn from, there are non-binary folks in many niches!
NPR: A Guide to Gender Identity Terms: https://www.npr.org/2021/06/02/996319297/gender-identity-pronouns-expression-guide-lgbtq (terms about gender/sex, the manners around asking/using pronouns, what different combos of pronouns can mean, and how to navigate when someone’s name is different than what’s on their ID).
London Public Library has "Tomboy Survival Guide" by Ivan Coyote - great explanation of what it's like for tomboys to grow and learn in cis-gender environments.
Connect with Kate: https://instagram.com/thegooddoctor1991
Reach out and connect with me:
https://www.instagram.com/just_lgd/
https://forms.gle/6asbD73RrWEXwKoF6
Email: [email protected]
Resources mentioned in the episode:
Differentiating between gender vs. sex vs. sexual orientation (Rainbow Health Ontario: https://www.rainbowhealthontario.ca/news-publications/glossary/)
Practice exercises and worksheet (UNC): https://showyourlovetoday.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/Pronoun-Practice.pdf
Unsure of conjugation for pronouns www.practicewithpronouns.com
"Imagine a Pair of Boots" from Ivan Coyote's "The Slow Fix" Collection of Short Stories (available via London Public Library). There's an excerpt of their short story "By Any Other Name" linked here (choose "Read Excerpt (PDF)" button) that captures an example of someone who transfers their pain instead of transforming it.
Resources not mentioned but equally helpful:
Listen to people with lived experience. This includes people in your community who share similar contexts *and* includes more well-known folks beyond those contexts. Examples I follow include Alok Vaid-Menon (advocacy and stand-up comedy; website: https://www.alokvmenon.com, Insta: alokvmenon), Bob The Drag Queen (Drag Queen from Ru Pauls' drag race; Insta: bobthedragqueen, podcast: siblingrivalry), Mercury Stardust (advocate for making DIY in the home accessible, especially for women; website: https://mercurystardust.com, Insta: mercurystardusttopz, new book called "Safe and Sound"), Jeffrey Marsh (advocate and ....; Insta: thejeffreymarsh), Clara Olshansky (comic and writer; Insta: claraolshansky), and Sam Smith (Insta: samsmith; singer and songwriter). Or find your own folks to learn from, there are non-binary folks in many niches!
NPR: A Guide to Gender Identity Terms: https://www.npr.org/2021/06/02/996319297/gender-identity-pronouns-expression-guide-lgbtq (terms about gender/sex, the manners around asking/using pronouns, what different combos of pronouns can mean, and how to navigate when someone’s name is different than what’s on their ID).
London Public Library has "Tomboy Survival Guide" by Ivan Coyote - great explanation of what it's like for tomboys to grow and learn in cis-gender environments.
Connect with Kate: https://instagram.com/thegooddoctor1991
Reach out and connect with me:
https://www.instagram.com/just_lgd/
https://forms.gle/6asbD73RrWEXwKoF6
Email: [email protected]
More episodes of the podcast Let's Get Intentional
Wrapping up and reflecting on 2024
03/01/2025
Managing Stress during stressful times
03/10/2024
Soak in the extra beats
04/09/2024
On quitting
24/08/2024
Addicted or Aimless
29/07/2024
Return to alignment
01/07/2024
Soulful Sunday
23/06/2024
In God we trust