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Listen "Are You Exasperating Your Child? Why “Gentle” Parenting Still Creates Angry, Defiant Kids"
Episode Synopsis
Are you accidentally creating the very behavior you’re praying would stop?
In this powerful episode, Bonnie and Thomas Liotta unpack what it really means to “exasperate” your children—and how so many expert-approved methods quietly provoke anger, discouragement, and defiance.
Together, they walk you through:
A typical parenting loop: act out → redirect → escalate → punish → more defiance
Why redirection, timeouts, and calm takeaways still plant “black seeds” in your child’s heart
How validating feelings without teaching skills trains kids to use emotions as an excuse
The difference between reaction mode and proactive leadership as a parent
Simple Monkey See, Monkey Do examples (shaving cream, makeup, and more) that build skills instead of resentment
Grounded in scriptures like Ephesians 6:4, Proverbs 22:6, Colossians 3:21, and Proverbs 15:1, this conversation shows how modern control-based parenting—even when dressed up as “gentle” or “peaceful”—often contradicts the very principles we say we believe.
If your child has been labeled “defiant,” “explosive,” “strong-willed,” or even diagnosed with ADHD or ODD, this episode will help you see them in a brand new light: as a genius spirit watching you, learning from you, and desperately needing you to become a true life preparer—not just a behavior manager.
Your children are the fruit of your root. When you change the seed, you change the fruit.
To go deeper and learn how to guide behavior instead of punishing it, visit:
https://learntospeakkid.com
In this powerful episode, Bonnie and Thomas Liotta unpack what it really means to “exasperate” your children—and how so many expert-approved methods quietly provoke anger, discouragement, and defiance.
Together, they walk you through:
A typical parenting loop: act out → redirect → escalate → punish → more defiance
Why redirection, timeouts, and calm takeaways still plant “black seeds” in your child’s heart
How validating feelings without teaching skills trains kids to use emotions as an excuse
The difference between reaction mode and proactive leadership as a parent
Simple Monkey See, Monkey Do examples (shaving cream, makeup, and more) that build skills instead of resentment
Grounded in scriptures like Ephesians 6:4, Proverbs 22:6, Colossians 3:21, and Proverbs 15:1, this conversation shows how modern control-based parenting—even when dressed up as “gentle” or “peaceful”—often contradicts the very principles we say we believe.
If your child has been labeled “defiant,” “explosive,” “strong-willed,” or even diagnosed with ADHD or ODD, this episode will help you see them in a brand new light: as a genius spirit watching you, learning from you, and desperately needing you to become a true life preparer—not just a behavior manager.
Your children are the fruit of your root. When you change the seed, you change the fruit.
To go deeper and learn how to guide behavior instead of punishing it, visit:
https://learntospeakkid.com
In God we trust