202- Nagging vs. Inspiring

09/07/2022 4 min

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Episode Synopsis


Jon Tyson is a pastor, I came . I across via Adam Bradley on Twitter. He Rights "I would see my kids doing the wrong thing, and lecture, lecture, lecture. I would start in a nice tone, then wrap them up the intensity as their eyes glazed over. Then I would start to nag. I'd nag when they woke up, in the car, when they got home, when they were home, when they went to bed. What a beat down of a culture. Who wants to live in a world like that? Nagging is one of the lowest forms of parenting. Nagging creates an emotional field that repels our kids away from us. The worst thing was I was nagging them and things I was inconsistent. Then he got called out by his wife who said, you inspire people for a living, start inspiring your kids. Inspiration, not nagging was about to come home.
Less lectures, more vision, less bothering, more modeling. Less telling, more showing. Let's demand, more invitations. Effect was almost immediate and brought a totally different result. Stop trying to get my kids to just do the right thing, and focused on helping them become the right people. I change from behavioral compliance to heart inspiration. I wanted my kids to follow me not to nag them into compliance. I started to cast a vision that they wanted to be a part of, tell the story they wanted to be in, lived in a way that can tell them to follow.
Tell a story your team wants to be a part of. Offer invitations instead of demanding. Invitations are INCLUSIVE, and my kids have told me that inclusivity is the MOST important thing they look for in  leaders.