Science has us convinced that we should keep our goals to ourselves. But does this work?

In this episode of The New Music Industry Podcast, I explain why sharing your goals with others is crucial to reaching them.
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Podcast Highlights:

00:34 – Science says you shouldn’t share your goals with anyone
01:10 – The “trying” problem
02:29 – Action
02:50 – Getting into conversation
03:44 – Think And Grow Rich?
04:54 – Failure and the mistake advantage
05:20 – Why share your goals with others?
05:44 – The secret to sharing
06:19 – Episode summary

Transcription:
Today I wanted to share about the importance of sharing your goals with others.

Now, science is saying you shouldn’t share your goals with anyone. But why?

Because when you share your goals and receive early praise, you get a false sense of completion. You can even enter a state where you feel as though the goal has already been accomplished, even if it hasn’t been.

When I first heard that, I thought it made sense.

But based on the training I’ve received in the last year or so, I couldn’t disagree more. I think it’s ridiculous.

I think it might even be a deliberate attempt to disempower and deceive people who are genuinely trying to accomplish something worthwhile.

But you may say, “science is science, D.A. – it’s irrefutable.”

Then tell me this:

If we were to say for a moment that The Secret and Law of Attraction indeed work, then it’s also true that you attract what you are.

What do you attract when you’re trying to reach your goals? Think about it for a second. You attract more trying. So, you get stuck in a cycle of trying, trying, trying.

What do you attract when you’re trying to reach your goals? More trying.Share on X

We have a serious problem with trying in the music industry. Have you ever noticed that?

I can think of many examples, but the one that comes immediately to mind is Carly Rae Jepsen’s hit single, “Call Me Maybe”.

There’s a line in the chorus that goes:

“And all the other boys try to chase me”.

Are the boys trying to chase you? Or are they in fact chasing you? There’s a difference.

The only instance in which they might be trying to chase you is if they’re disabled or hindered by an obstacle. So, they’re chasing you unsuccessfully. Of course, that doesn’t sound as good in a lyrical context.

Now, I happen to think “Call Me Maybe” is a catchy song with a good hook but that’s beside the point.

The point is that we should consider eliminating the word, “try” from our vocabulary when it comes to goals.

We should consider eliminating the word, “try” from our vocabulary when it comes to goals.Share on X

You’re welcome to try new things, whether it’s food, a new hobby or a new routine. But that’s not what we’re talking about.

Again, if we were to assume that the Law of Attraction works, wouldn’t a state of completion be the ideal state to be in? Wouldn’t you attract completion from a state of completion?

But there’s more to this, because I don’t think what people are missing is an emotional state or a vibration. You don’t need to get your thoughts and feelings in order to achieve your goals. You don’t need to meditate for hours to get what you want.

What’s still missing from the equation is action. On this point I think virtually everyone would agree.

If you don’t do something, you won’t get anything.

If you don’t do something, you won’t get anything.Share on X

But of all the things you could be doing, is there anything truly as important as getting into conversation?

Think about all that you can achieve through conversation:

You can set up partnerships.
You can persuade investors.
You can talk to collaborators about starting new projects.
You can get a date.
You can sell your significant other on the idea of marriage.
You can ask for publicity and media coverage.

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