New and extraordinary emotional truth is shared in this session wherein Figs and Teale stop defending their stories and start experiencing the empathy and connection they long for. Discover insights into how reactivity can be an essential precursor to vulnerability.Timestamps:01:06 Small talk — Life in Hawaii05:22 Intro to the session: The ways couples normally try to solve problems08:07 Therapy tools: "My story is that…"10:10 Transitioning from story of other to experience of self13:48 Honoring the reactive cycle before dropping into vulnerability15:30 Accessing Teale's attachment history17:35 Session begins — Defending their stories21:12 Why Figs uses anger23:50 Teale's story of "I'm the wronged one"24:48 Feeling behind the anger: Figs is alone | Teale empathizing with Figs30:33 Teale's hurt and past around anger in men33:33 Teale protesting with "I don't want to tolerate it"35:09 Figs feeling triggered around "I'm not gonna tolerate it" 37:36 Teale wants to reorganize her narrative of her life40:39 Discussing Teale's (triggering) family history45:17 Teale's family with Figs is healing46:20 Figs becomes emotional over being that person for Teale48:25 Teale feels love for that fiery part of Figs50:42 Session ends — What is your story?51:08 Scary and activating for Teale to share her attachment history54:15 Figs' journey to vulnerable empathy for Teale56:59 Big vulnerable feelings may not look dramatic on the outside59:49 Feeling activated first helps in moving to deeper vulnerable feelings01:03:28 Ending chit-chat: The Bro and the Angry Irishman Visit comeheretomepodcast.com for episode transcripts, social media links, and to subscribe to the mailing list.
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